Many of us get in a hurry to get our horses to do this or that and create an agenda in our minds. Horses live in the moment and we need to learn to do this as well. It's not easy because we live in an agenda oriented society. We grab the halter, decide to lead the horse somewhere and do whatever we had in mind. Sometimes it's best to slow down our thinking, slow, very slow and try to better tune into what the horse wants. Yes, many will say my horse doesn't have any say in the matter. What I have learned by allowing my horse a say when presented with something new is that by allowing him to back away or even leave with no repercussion, he will try so much harder the next time. A mare doesn't reprimand her foal that is afraid of something, she remains placid and lets the foal deal with it's issue. We often assume a horse is ok with something, when really maybe he's not. Corporal punishment will work but when the chips are down the horse will fall apart.