Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Ohhhhh ya...I think there is a connection. I find that people who speak before thinking, have over-reactions to situations and jump all over your sentences before you are done speaking tend to do the same thing with horses. They tend to over anticipate bad behaviour in the horse, react big to percieved faults in the horse, and don't give them a chance to react to what is being asked.
The opposite side of that are people who are contemplative with their words, active listeners, and those who like you said, give the benefit of the doubt. These folks seem to think about the "why" of the behaviour, considder how their own actions influence the horse, and give them time to think out a request before correction/trying a new approach.
Of course, there are many different personalities and behaviours to take into consideration, but those are just a few examples. In the end, our horses are reflections of us, I think, the good the bad and the ugly. No one is perfect, and our horses are certainly not either. Sometimes does it seem like horses can magnify our worst personality flaws - kinda to the point where is it a good thing because it becomes so obvious that we are forced to deal with it? Just a thought...
~Lindsay~ Mom of 2, wife to the goldsmith, doula and childbirth educator in training, life-long horse dork