Our horses also realize we are in charge. Because we give them a choice, and when they make the wrong choice, there are consequences. They are rewarded (by taking off pressure) for making a right choice.
Our horses are in our control. But I don't kid myself saying I can completely control my horses mind. In my opinion, I can teach them to make the decisions I want them to make, and we can work together, but I can't have say over every thing they do.
Like I said, it's a matter of opinion. And I'd really rather not continue to argue it. I am glad you have never been hurt by a horse. Kudos to you. But I'll continue riding WITH my horses,and learning alongside them not just forcing them to do everything without knowing beforehand.
Yes, I am from one of those "fun barns".
"There are no bad horses, nor bad people. There are only broken spirits."