The thing I really really don't understand with some of the NH gurus is that they don't accept leadership as part of what a horse needs; Sorry, folks, but look at ANY herd of horses, whether it be 2 or 200...you WILL see leaders, sometimes several mares will be, BUT the point is, that our horses NEED a leader, and we as their owners, riders, trainers, etc, are responsible for being a good and fair leader for him. It's in good leadership that you will have the working relationship you desire, period.
My buck and bolt mare didn't turn into a decent trail horse, because I 'talked' her into it...I made the decisions, and chose the direction in her training to create a willing riding horse. Have I taken things slower in some areas? Definitely, BUT I am still her leader, and she chooses to listen and obey, simply because I have established myself as a trusted leader, by not babying her fears, or beating her through her buck and bolt issues...I've been consistent, gentle when I can, and firm when necessary.
I challenge any of you people who believe that your horse is truly your 'partner' by riding through scarey as hell places, without them wigging out; My mare can ride through a busy town, under bridges with traffic over and beside her, passes road work crews, and encountered a coyote one night; literally 5 ft away from her, and she didn't take control or become fearful...didn't even raise her head, she waited patiently for my direction. THAT to me is a working relationship between horse and rider...you can get all fancy in the arena, but does that transfer to everywhere in your horse riding life????
"The ideal horseman has the courage of a lion, the patience of a saint, and the hands of a woman..."
Last edited by mom2pride; 09-26-2010 at 05:52 PM.