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post #1 of 16 Old 05-08-2010, 06:30 PM Thread Starter
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What Parelli has done for me outside my horse life.

Hi guys just thought I would post this as Parelli has done a lot more for me than just to improve my horsemanship.

So this is my story.

On Christmas day of 2009 my father found out that my mother had been cheating on him for nearly their whole marriage, which is more than my whole life. It was the worst thing to ever happen to my family. My mother basically left us. My father was desperate he offered her a chance to come back three times and she said no and just left without any explanation to us her children or her husband. She told us that it was mostly because of her mother putting her up for adoption when she was younger which made her feel unloved and said she wasn't getting enough love from her family or husband so she found it else where that is what really got me she had the best life anyone could have a place for her horse a horse bought for her and now she struggles to get by and she doesn't do anything for her kids. My dad pays for everything we need, he feeds us he pays for me horses and my Parelli obsession. She says she doesn't know how someone can leave their child but I felt like she was doing just that to us so I really didn't understand her. I went through the worst phase of my life so far and I really didn't think I would make it through it any time soon. I used my horses as an escape from the real world and what was going on in my life but my life problems was affecting my horsemanship I found myself taking the anger I had for my mother out on my horses which made me feel worse. I knew there was something wrong in my head when I was doing wrong by my horses. That was when I found Parelli I had heard of it before even sort of tried it but never really got into it but I went with my Dad on a holiday to the British Open showjumping championships which had a Parelli zone with Parelli Professionals from the UK there. Myself and my dad where inspired and he bought me the starter kit and signed me up to the savvy club. I started doing Parelli with my three horses Patch Phoebe and Dreamer. It instantly changed everything. I was enjoying being with my horses again. It was fun again and not annoying or just a way to take out my anger it didn't take out my anger it got rid of any anger I had because I was having fun with my horses again. It has changed my outlook on life and now I think I can make it through life at one stage I didn't think life was worth living over these past couple of months and I used to think of how awful a life someone must have to not want to live and I experienced what that felt like and I don't want to ever feel like that again and thanks to Parelli I know I won't feel like that again and if I do I know I can just go out and play with my horses and I will feel better again.

So that is what Parelli has done for my life not just for my horses.

What's your story?

Shauna and the gang (Phoebe,Patch,Dreamer and George)
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post #2 of 16 Old 05-08-2010, 06:39 PM
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That's a really inspiring story, Savvylover. My parents are also divorced as a result of my mum cheating, and I've lived with both sides of the family on and off.

Parelli has taught me how to stand up for myself without being aggressive or defensive. I know how to be dominant and tell people what I want, without resorting to violence or threats (which is something I couldn't do before I discovered Parelli). It's really helped me get along better with people (and horses), and to combat my shy streak.
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Same with me on the second point you made there. I know how to stand up for myself where as before I would just stand there and take whatever she threw at me about my dad and other stuff but I am stronger now because of it.
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post #4 of 16 Old 05-08-2010, 07:04 PM
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That's awesome (: Parelli's so amazing. We need more people like him in the world!
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post #5 of 16 Old 05-08-2010, 10:49 PM
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Very nice Shauna :) I'm proud of you. Parelli really is way more than riding, isn't it? ;) Well lets see....before Parelli I was very impatient, got frustrated very easily, would worry about stupid little things, wasn't very confident in myself and would have rather followed than led. Through the principles outlined in the program I have A LOT more patience with people (unlimited with horses lol), I rarely get frustrated and I don't worry about stupid things anymore, I just get over it and move on. I'm comfortable in a leadership position now and am confident leading people and instructing. It's also helped me be more open to relationships and to trust easier. Parelli is really a lifestyle :)
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Hi Savvylover, that is a sad story. Life can be difficult and sometimes the things that we go through seem unbearable. I am glad that you were able to find a cipher to channel your feelings of pain and frustration. The one thing that I feel it is important to say is that while the vehicle used was Parelli please don't forget to give yourself credit for actually implementing new ideas and being willing to let go of old resentments. A concept like Parelli may provide a direction to take but YOU were the one who was brave enough to move forward. Give yourself credit, you are the deciding factor in your life, you are the one that is important.
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I agree with Kiwigirl. I don't think it's so much Parelli as you helping yourself. I actually find it a bit disturbing how much credit you give to parelli. You decided to make a change within yourself, set goals and got out and worked with your horses. That is good medicine. It could have been anyone to give you the direction, but it was you who actually got out and did it. I'm glad you are turning things around for yourself. My only advice...don't limit yourself to just parelli.
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post #8 of 16 Old 05-11-2010, 02:34 AM
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Shauna, you know I respect your views, but hon, I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit. You are a strong, smart girl, and I know you would have gotten through this mess with or without any particular person/training program.

Here's what I think, and I'm going to delve a little into my psych studies here: I think you were lacking direction in your life, lacking a goal, and moreover, you were really missing any kind of connection to any one thing. Parelli offered you a new goal for your horses, a step-by-step system, and you threw yourself into it - which is fantastic, it sounds like you needed a little push to get you started... but hon, you were the one to get yourself where you are now. You found a goal that you could work towards, a group of people who were accepting and supportive, and you once again found yourself enjoying things again because of the newfound support and success. I think the same thing could have happened if you found another supportive group that offered you goals and got you excited about life again.

I think it's fantastic that you were able to come through your ordeals and have such a great outlook on life - but that comes from you, you, and only you. Please don't forget that.

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Thank you all I do know that I need to give myself some credit deep down I know that but I just didn't think I was able to do that yet I think I needed to give something else credit first but I think deep down I did know that I needed to give myself credit too. I myself am open to other training methods when things don't work out which sometimes they won't and if they don't I will try other things to fix it.

Thank you very much Kiwigirl, sandy2u1, and Allie. I think I agree with you very much Allie on the fact that I needed a goal and Parelli seemed to fit the bill for me and give me a goal to go on. I kind of knew that all along too but I really didn't know how to put that across so I kind of just put it off that it was all Parelli but I am not all Parelli as I said before.

So I just want to thank you guys I think you have put me forward on another step that I needed to give myself credit aswell as anything that has helped me get this far.

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I am with Kiwi, Sandy, and JDI on this one. You made your life better. Not Parelli.
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