Originally Posted by DraftyAiresMum
A whip or stick is only supposed to be an extension of your arm. If you would hit the horse with your hand, don't hit it with the whip/stick.
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That should read "If you WOULDN'T hit the horse with your hand, don't hit it with the whip/stick."
Adding to what I already said...
You say you know dogs. Ok, so what does the alpha in a pack do when a subordinate gets out of line or gets too big for their britches? The alpha drives them away until they submit, correct? Say principal applies with horses. The lead mare of a herd will drive a subordinate away from the herd until they submit. Why does this work? Because there's safety in numbers and a horse on its own is much more vulnerable. By driving an upstart from the safety of the herd and only letting them back in when they agree to play by the rules, the lead mare is, in effect, saying "I have the power to literally feed you to the wolves. You want to stay in the safety of my herd, you have to live by my rules."
So, how does this apply to the human/horse relationship? Think of you and the horse as a herd of two (because that's how the horse sees it). Right now, the horse has the upper hand and knows she can drive you away, making you vulnerable to attack (in her mind). So what you have to do is turn the tables on her. Make it so that this little herd of two is YOUR herd and either she plays by YOUR rules, or she's the one who gets kicked out and left to the predators. Being with you and accepting your leadership should mean safety to her. Posted via Mobile Device