my newest project Snowbird is a spotted draft and she prefers "men" over me anyday. She was also amish broke and then driven by a man and then I got her. I am forceful and dominant and do not let her get away with anything. We arent bonding as fast as I thought we would but by no means do I think it isnt something we can overcome. I actually just got the Seven Games and will be starting with that. I have been working with her for over a month now and have seen a slight improvement. Do not give up. Some horses, just like some humans, trust slow!!
I agree with everyone though, spend a lot of "un intentional" time with her. Just being around her. The sleeping in the stall works. Its crazy and you wont really "sleep" the first night but I've slept in many stalls and noticed a difference.(Snowbird is currently not stalled due to my older horses being in because of the cold). Just hang out in the pasture. Grab a good horsie book and a chair and sit in her pasture. Horses are naturally curious and she is bound to wonder why you are camped in her pasture!
Be the kind of woman who, when your feet hit the floor in the morning, the devil says "oh sh*t she's up!"
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