There is a difference between patting a horse on the neck and hitting it's neck to move it away. The horse can sense intent and energy level and will react accordingly. When I want to move the horse away, my hand is closer to his eye and it's always the hand that's closest. My energy level is also higher, thus he moves away. Yet if I'm goofing around I can slap both hands all over his body and he knows he doesn't have to move. He understands my intent.
Yeah, my bratty appy would definitely tell me if he wasn't enjoying it lol
I don't know where she gets any of her stuff. She "taught" me how to bridle my horse yesterday by holding a treat in her hand to get him to "accept" the bit. He doesn't have problems accepting a bit until a stranger comes up and tries it. Then it takes maybe 3 minutes.
I don't want my horse to assume every time he gets bridled, he'll be treated for it. For Gods sake, he's 15 years old.
All bribing a horse will get you is a spoiled rotten horse. IMHO
Sounds like your so called "trainer" is one of those "know it all" types. I've heard that horses prefer being stroked or rubbed because it feels most like their mothers tongue, but I don't think its wrong to pat your horse. Even if horses did in fact not like pats, they still can feel the meaning behind a gesture, and would still take it as an act of kindness. So just treat your horse how you see fit, and try not to let your "trainer" person get to you. No one knows your horse like you do.
From the time I was a kid & first involved with horses (the 50's), I intuitively knew that they didn't like being patted, but instead liked being stroked. Decades later, Pat's teaching that fact impressed me: hardly any horsemanship teachers mention it.
They might read a harmless intent behind patting/slapping, but they still prefer strokes (aside from toning massage techniques). Simply look at their facial expressions: are they tolerating it, or enjoying it?