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post #131 of 145 Old 08-09-2013, 05:22 PM
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I have been in that situation and understand being annoyed but not wanting to seem rude. I chose to listen to her talk, all the while, going about my business...whatever it is at the time. I just listen without too much comment and not changing what I do for her sake. If she gets no reaction from you she hopefully will get bored listening to herself once she realizes she is not influencing you.

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post #132 of 145 Old 08-09-2013, 05:41 PM
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I realize OP has moved but my thinking is this. Unless there is a dangerous, or abusive, situation brewing, I keep my opinions to myself unless otherwise asked for my opinion or help. Sure, I've had to bite my lip a few times to keep from interfering in some issues but while maybe not horse illiterate, what people were doing was more lack of experience vice true damage. Now, if I see one of the kids having a problem with bridling a horse who suddenly decides to become their giraffe half, I'll walk over and ask if they need help.

I expect the same courtesy in return. If there is a situation developing of which I am unaware for whatever reason and it can become dangerous I expect someone to speak up, but, unless I ask for help or someone's opinion (outside of my trainer or fellow riders that have more experience than me and are helping me out) then I expect people to not do what this woman was doing. I WILL tell someone off, politely, if need be.

AS for patting..understanding my horse, I pat the rump and shoulder and will otherwise give rubs anywhere else. If I am actually riding at the time I may do a quick stroke of the neck followed by a couple of LIGHT pats..never could figure out why people have to give those over exaggerated versions I see..I sure wouldn't want to be patted that hard :) but the fact the horse doesn't launch them may mean they are either used to it or don't care.

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post #133 of 145 Old 08-09-2013, 07:13 PM
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I was just reading a scientific paper that the best place to touch a horse is where the withers meets the spine, in a stroking fashion in the direction of the hair. The conclusion was that patting can raise the horse's energy level because this is not part of horse communication. This could result in a horse becoming fearful and reacting in an unpleasant manner.
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post #134 of 145 Old 08-13-2013, 05:55 AM
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Patting your horse is not wrong at all -.- If the horse doesn't particularly enjoy it though, oh well! Patting the horse doesn't hurt it, and the more you do it, the more your horse won't mind it.
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post #135 of 145 Old 08-13-2013, 11:02 AM
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My horsie certainly doesn't mind pats xD
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post #136 of 145 Old 08-13-2013, 12:01 PM Thread Starter
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WELL ANYWAYYYY this thread is extremely old.
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post #137 of 145 Old 08-13-2013, 05:30 PM
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I think a horse could become tolerant of patting yet may still not like it.
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post #138 of 145 Old 08-22-2013, 05:18 AM
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Yes, it's grand to pat your pony! This person sounds like a bit of an eejit, actually. Did you see the post in the Natural Horsemanship forum about the Parellis?
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post #139 of 145 Old 08-28-2013, 09:52 AM
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xlioness, the thread is still going because it has raised awareness in people. I tried working with the horses, just doing short strokes down both sides of the spine. The horses were at liberty. I touched nowhere else and both horses became quite relaxed. I have also merely stood with the horses, facing the same direction, doing as they do. It gets interesting.
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post #140 of 145 Old 08-28-2013, 10:09 AM Thread Starter
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I still pat my horse...no shame.
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