Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Canberra Australia
Soenjer55 is right. The problem is too many of us are nice and it can sometimes be hard to just say “no” or “I’m not interested” because we are afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings or something. My girlfriend had recently had that trouble. Her friends were always wanting her to go and do things with them, shopping, going out to dinner, nothing nasty, nice things actually, but they were getting in the way of her work and it was putting her under a lot of stress. I had to convince her it was OK for her to say, “no, I’m busy”. She did eventually say it; her friends were a bit miffed for a day or so, and now they just get that she has to get through her work. And my girlfriend is much happier.
My guess is that if you just say to this person something like, “I appreciate that you are just trying to help, but I really need to do this on my own; but I would also appreciate it if I could come to you for advice some time” she might back off and give you some space and probably not get her panties in much of a bunch about it. Let it keep going and it will probably just get worse.
Last edited by AnrewPL; 03-18-2013 at 08:30 PM.