Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Canberra Australia
Yeah, you may not get any peace till you get her to back off. I have, like most, no doubt, had to deal with a few of these. And they all seem to have one defect (well probably a few but lets just focus on the one that gets them in our faces) that leaving them alone, or ignoring them, = invitation for them to keep it up.
What you probably have to do is figure out the best way to deal with her.
You asked if it's OK to pat your horse; you seemed to get a reasonable response here from some experienced people vis horses. So you probably don't need to deal with that now
The problem now is to deal with the pain in the bum.
Me, depending on my relation with the person, how long I have known them, I would fall along a spectrum starting with telling them to F off, to just biting my tongue and putting up with it.
My guess is that you, like most of us, don’t want to be a bum-hole and aggravate the woman, so you could, in a nice way tell her you just need to get things done yourself, and just to make a slightly bitter pill for her to swallow a little sweeter, tell her that you would appreciate it if she would let you ask questions in the future (whether you do or not is entirely up to you). Or, do tell her about your alien abduction and probing in the nether regions, I was being facetious, but it should get her to back off. Finally, tell her to bugger off. But you may have to deal with the fallout.
But for your own piece of mind it will be better to deal with her one way or another sooner rather than later.