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    03-19-2013, 06:36 PM
Originally Posted by xlionesss    
I really don't mind if people think I'm crazy, mostly because BO knows I'm not an that's all that matters LOL
Oh you spoil sport - it's very liberating when everyone thinks you're mad!
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    03-19-2013, 09:36 PM
Lol! Well, today I went to ride and guess who was a complete something when I tried to bridle him....yup, my horse. He would NOT let me for life of him and kept mouthing my hand for a treat....I'm SO PO'd right now it's unbelievable. I'm DEFINITELY telling this woman off next time she attempts to "help". Horses learn WAY too quickly and after taking 20 minutes to get him tacked I'm royally upset.
My boyfriend was there watching me and even he was astounded while saying things like "what's wrong with him? He never does this..." I HATE PEOPLE!!
    03-19-2013, 10:47 PM
Like BSMS stated, I'm a "rubber" rather than a "patter" Think about it in human terms---what feels better to YOU?
I also believe existential pony must be a diplomat in her career. So tactful! My suggestion would be the passive-aggressive route. Like you, I have a long fuse and dislike confrontation. Unlike you, I'd probably totally ignore her and hope she went away
    03-20-2013, 12:23 AM
Originally Posted by backyardhorse    
I'd probably totally ignore her and hope she went away
An example of extinguishing a behaviour by never reinforcing it??
    03-20-2013, 09:18 AM
I'm not even okay with this anymore you guys, when I see her she is definitely getting an earfull. It is NOT okay that my horse has already learned to seek a treat for tacking up, and I'm mad that it's partially my fault for letting her. >:(
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    03-20-2013, 09:33 AM
Just tell her to back off and that you never asked for her help. I had to do this to someone because she just wouldn't back off. I told her she could do whatever she wanted with her horse, but my horse isn't hers and ill work with her how I see fit. Bullies don't stand down unless you make them.
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    03-20-2013, 09:41 AM
Oh my goodness! I am so more 'up front' than I probably should be! An acquaintance/quasi friend at my old barn told me she was buying Parelli DVDS so she could start her youngster with response:

'You touch my horse with your magical carrot stick and I'm going to beat you with it!' (She thought I was joking - but she got the message)
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    03-20-2013, 09:46 AM
Any coincidence that the Muppet you chose was Animal? (said with a slow approving nod of approval)
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    03-20-2013, 09:53 AM
Yeah, you may not get any peace till you get her to back off. I have, like most, no doubt, had to deal with a few of these. And they all seem to have one defect (well probably a few but lets just focus on the one that gets them in our faces) that leaving them alone, or ignoring them, = invitation for them to keep it up.
What you probably have to do is figure out the best way to deal with her.
You asked if it's OK to pat your horse; you seemed to get a reasonable response here from some experienced people vis horses. So you probably don't need to deal with that now
The problem now is to deal with the pain in the bum.
Me, depending on my relation with the person, how long I have known them, I would fall along a spectrum starting with telling them to F off, to just biting my tongue and putting up with it.
My guess is that you, like most of us, don’t want to be a bum-hole and aggravate the woman, so you could, in a nice way tell her you just need to get things done yourself, and just to make a slightly bitter pill for her to swallow a little sweeter, tell her that you would appreciate it if she would let you ask questions in the future (whether you do or not is entirely up to you). Or, do tell her about your alien abduction and probing in the nether regions, I was being facetious, but it should get her to back off. Finally, tell her to bugger off. But you may have to deal with the fallout.
But for your own piece of mind it will be better to deal with her one way or another sooner rather than later.
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    03-20-2013, 10:03 AM
Originally Posted by AnrewPL    
Any coincidence that the Muppet you chose was Animal? (said with a slow approving nod of approval)
Haha! If only I could poke you between the eyes with my drum stick!!! Actually I enjoy being flat out honest with people, it really liberates a person! I have brutally honest friends and we all have a good ole laugh!
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