Originally Posted by loosie
) is just that horses, cats, women.... etc don't (generally) find it pleasant. Therefore it is not (generally) a positive reinforcement, therefore don't use it as one.
I agree fully with that principle, have found that horses don't tend to like being smacked/patted, but as with all principles, as I remember one of PP's sayings was something like; 'never say never, usually say usually' - in other words, there are always exceptions & if's & buts to any 'rules'.
IDK, I tend to like a little pat on the butt from my hubby, lol...
Anyway, I agree that this lady is a bully. Just bc you do it different doesnt make it wrong. I have a 16yr old in my neighborhood just like her. But I decided to just smile and be nice, then start callingher out on stuff in a polite manner, lol.... Pretty much ANY horse she finds is gaited. Apparently she thinks if they stick their tails out or rides smooth it means they are gaited.... So I just straight out asked her what kind of gait he had, and she said IDK you'll have to ask the owner. BUT the owner had said she doesnt know! I'll wait and find more instances, lol.... Maybe it's starting to sink in to her. Bc I'm no the only one that has questioned her. BUT anyway....
If this lady is a narcissist, you wont get anywhere. So all I'd say is "I don't have a problem with my horse. We've done it this way for X many years, and he doesnt mind, I've never had any problems with him, so I am not going to worry about it, and stick to what I've always done."