I definitely agree with those who said that you need to get your confidence up and not be afraid. Horses can sense if you're afraid and they will react to that. I recently got my first horse in my adult life at the age of 39. I hadn't owned a horse since I was 17. I was surprised at how much fear I had because when I was younger, I was fearless! I hired a trainer to work with me on everything from care, grooming (picking up the feet, etc.), groundwork, respect, giving medicine, etc. There are people at my barn willing to help me anytime but I found that I really needed a consistent refresher a couple times a week rather than having to ask for help every time a question or issue came up. This has been amazing for my confidence and I've gone from feeling clumsy and green to feeling confident. Still green, but not afraid. :) If I can get there, you can!