There's something about his face; there's good stuff in there. That's why I'm hell bent. I have no interest in jumping on him or getting crazy, I just know he has to be miserably bored. I want him happy and I want to be able to at least socialize and interact with him.
Well Dilly, in the words of a long-time horse friend of mine:
"s**t fire and light matches" . I relate to that and emphathize because one of my four horses is like that.
He's been with me 17-1/2 of his 19-1/2 years for just that reason.
Everyonce in awhile, I would catch a glimpse of somebody really sweet in that 1,100 pounds of horse.
He is disrespectful of women but he will listen to my 5'2" self because I will lace him with the buggy whip if he doesn't. Actually I haven't connected the buggy whip to him in a good 8 years; smacking the ground or the metal T-posts works every bit as well
Three crucial things with my unruly/A.D.D. horse:
1. Diet. If he is on ANY SORT of grain or bagged feed, get him off of it "yesterday". That includes ration balancers because they have grain in them and they also have soy in them.
Oats, corn and soy can make a horse nuts <---my horse in this post:)
He should have vitmins/minerals but I would buy a quality brand that is condensed; meaning it only takes one ounce to two ounces for him to get his requirements.
It could be mixed into STRAIGHT timothy pellets (no alfalfa for now) with a bit of water. Tractor Supply carries Standlee hay products. They are consistently high quality and not dusty.
No apples no carrots -- sorry too much sugar. Treat him with a handful of timothy pellets if you feel the need:)
Yes, I am asking you to feed this horse like he is insulin resistant BUT it's the diet my nut case horse is on and if you've ever seen A.D.D. or overactive children at work, they behave a lot better without sugar in them.
1.1 Lastly just for kicks because it's not that expensive: Buy AniMed's "Remission". Its primary purpose is to get magnesium into insulin resistant horses to keep their insulin under control. Remission Animed (Supplements - Hoof Builders)
<--don't be mis-lead by the words "hoof supplement". This is some good all around stuff PROVIDED the horse is deficient and/or has high insulin levels; it seems to be a good health multi-tasker
I learned by accident, last Spring, that my A.D.D. horse (in this thread) must be magnesium deficient because the Remission caused him to have such an "about face" personality that even my little Arab allowed him to groom. The Arab has never-ever permitted that.
This horse no longer has environmental allergies and I don't see his skin crawl anymore, the rain rot and big flakes of dandruff are gone and so are the Scratches every time it rains.
2. Ever constant discipline, albeit these days we're down to verbal but, he still gets disciplined more than all of my Keeper Horses combined in the 53 years I've been paying for my own horses. It's just who he is.
3. Chiropractor and a fantastic one. Male or female but to be good, they need a good "woman's instinct". I know you get that, even if you don't have children
Horses do indeed have headaches that can make them blow up for no apparent reason. While that can be caused by a blow to the head, generally the cause is the Atlas bone in the head/neck area being out of place.
If you really want to keep this fella, find someone to handle him while a highly qualified and very intuitive chiropractor examines him. Hopefully said chiro also knows acupuncture.
If you keep this horse, yes you need somebody with a fair heart & mind and a lot of experience to help you. We can only offer so much, from afar.
I wouldn't even be posting this post were it not for the fact that you sound like you've got more grit than six people and also enough common sense to over ride your emotions so you don't get yourself killed by this horse.
His bad habits most assuredly need addressed and corrected but there's a reason why he's gotten this bad in the first place. A 12 year old horse just doesn't suddenly go off the deep end and run a herd mate thru the fence.
Some THING has happened -- figure that out and you might be on your way to a decent horse -- you may never be able to totally turn your back on him but it sounds as if you're willing to deal with that if you can save him