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post #91 of 101 Old 12-05-2013, 07:02 PM
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I used to have very low confidence as well and thought I'd never jump again, but with a good trainer I pulled through. If you have the passion to ride you can definitely get to the level you dream of! It will take a lot of time and persistence, the right horse and trainer, but it's not unattainable.

If you can, get someone to film you every once in a while. I realized that often when a horse gets scared/bolts/bucks/etc, it feels much worse in the saddle (I used to get so scared), and then one day I saw myself in one of those events on film and I realized it was far from being as bad as I thought. That really helped me boost my confidence, because whenever I'd feel thrown about in the saddle, if I got scared, I'd remind myself that my fear makes me think its a thousand times worse than it actually is.

We all go through a period where our confidence is low, but a good rider is one that can face those fears and slowly (doesn't matter how long it takes) improve. You stayed in the saddle to start with! Be proud of that! :) Think positive and look at the good things, the stuff you can do, not the other way around.

Good luck! :)

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post #92 of 101 Old 12-06-2013, 11:55 PM
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Be proud of yourself for several reasons. First and foremost you did not get thrown or get off and lead her home you stuck with her, second you had enough sense to not keep the first horse that you felt was too much for you. It is perfectly normal for a horse to act up some if the horse they are with starts acting up. You most likely tensed up when that happened and your horse thought there was something to be afraid of. The only way to overcome this is to keep riding. I am not a big fan of lessons. It does no good for some one to get on your horse and get them to do or not to do something for you. You must do this yourself. Take it slow even if it means just standing and talking to your horse and grooming. find some one to ride with who has a "bomb proof" horse, don't get in a hurry, if you need to just walk for a while do so, there is not need to go at a faster gait until you are ready. Try to stay out of an arena, ride on the trail if you can. When you ride in an arena a lot the fence becomes a crutch for you and the horse. Too many horses can't function if they don't have that arena fence. Try to relax and just have fun. Don't let anyone take away your dream. Give yourself and your horse a chance. You will get there.
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post #93 of 101 Old 01-24-2014, 09:51 PM Thread Starter
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I haven't posted in forever! The weather has turned nasty so I have not ridden. I see Cloud every day and spend time with him walking around and grooming. He is not as personable as my first horse, Jazz, was but I love him anyway. He amazes me everyday with his impeccable ground manners and how he responds to verbal cues. Today at the barn I was petting him and we both got a "static shock". He jumped but luckily it was away from me. A year ago I would have freaked out, but today I just laughed. Baby steps....
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post #94 of 101 Old 01-25-2014, 09:09 AM
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Good for you!!!! Glad to hear!!
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post #95 of 101 Old 01-25-2014, 10:35 AM
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Glad to hear everything is going well! (:

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post #96 of 101 Old 01-26-2014, 07:45 PM
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Do NOT give up!!! Biggest mistake ever. I had a similar situation but I was 12/13 at the time. A few painful years later I found a trainer that helped me solve all mine and my horse's problems and we are very happy. The downside is that I wasted many good years of my life not doing what I love, riding! So go find a trainer and don't give up. :)
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post #97 of 101 Old 01-26-2014, 10:32 PM
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Read through the whole thread. We all as riders have those moments that we're scared. I'm glad you're enjoying your new horse Cloud, and that things are going well with him, he looks like a sweetheart and he's gorgeous. Here's hoping for many pleasant years and a strong bond with you two. :)
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post #98 of 101 Old 01-29-2014, 12:28 AM
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I have a butt-head horse I am working with. I have great aspirations. Everytime I drive up there those aspirations melt away to a reality but then I overcome and do it anyway. Well, maybe not as bold as I aspire but to conquer your fears is a great internal victory! A life lived in fear is a life half lived.

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post #99 of 101 Old 01-31-2014, 04:50 PM
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Don't give up your dreams! It may have been the other horse that spooked your horse or it may have been you. Your horse can only be as brave as you are! If you're paranoid, the horse will sense it and it will worry her. Trust in her and trust in your riding skills and it will get you far.

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post #100 of 101 Old 01-31-2014, 11:09 PM
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I can understand what you mean by little confidence. One day while I was on the ladies horse who had taught me riding lessons, the horse acted up and spooked. He reared and I nearly fell off. At the time I was 10 years old and I had no idea what had happened or why the horse had done that, and then the lady who had taught me was having a bad day I guess and lost it at me. She completely discouraged me and I lost all confidence and was terrified of getting on a horse for a while. However, my whole family is in to horses and each one of us had our own horse back at our farm. So I was eventually bothered enough to get back on and kind of regained confidence. I would just say, the best thing you can do for yourself is get back on! Don't be too discouraged with yourself. Remember, horses have bad days just like people do.
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