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        09-11-2013, 02:05 AM
      #51
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by IowaPsychRN    
    I had my first riding lesson today. I was a bit nervous at first, but my trainer was awesome and put me at ease. I learned a lot about balance and was given excercises to do to help my flexibility. This was my first time in an English saddle. I was surprised at how comfortable it was.
    LOVE to read this!! Kudos to you for not giving up, for seeking a solution and for embarking upon a wonderful new phase of relationship-building with your new horse! Very exciting news!
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        09-11-2013, 08:55 AM
      #52
    Foal
    I by no means have the experience that several people here do, but you sound a lot like the situation we went through. After 4yrs of riding lessons we purchased a horse. Long story short, for months I thought this was the wrong horse for my 13yr old. The right trainer working with my daughter and the horse, extra lessons, and a lot of hard work made all the difference. We have had him for a year and a half now and they have become a great team. It has been a wonderful thing to watch and all my doubts are gone. Best of luck to you!
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        09-12-2013, 06:09 PM
      #53
    Weanling
    Hold On!

    I'm just going to tell you my story and hope it helps you!

    I grew up in the middle of nowhere, no horses for miles. I have loved horses seance I was supper young, I even made my dad promise when I was three to someday get me a horse. My family had NO money. My dad did end up getting me a horse after a year of lessons when I was seven. She was a three year old not broke Morgan mare in foul, I had her only a year. We had no idea how to take care of a horse. When I turned 13 a decided that I needed to start working towards my dream or it would never happen. I worked filling truckloads of horse manure my hand in trade for riding lessons. I took lessons for a couple months but ended up being to busy working three other jobs to make money to actually buy the horse. I was working at a grocery store, working on a farm and haling wood. I worked all summer and fall. The next spring my dad not an inhairatence and dicided to buy me a horse as long as I pay for feed, board, tack, etc. I told my dad I wanted a supper broke 10 to 16 year old gelding perfect for a beginner. He wanted me to get a young broke horse that I could spend years and years with and again we made the mistake of getting the first horse we looked at, her name was Freckles she was a 5 year old Appaloosa mare. I rode her before buying her and she was great! I am almost positive now that she was drugged and worked probably twice that day before I got there. I got her home, did not ride her for a couple weeks due to lack of a saddle. Rode her bareback once she was okay a little hot.. Second time I rode her she bucked me off, I landed on a rock and broke my tail bone. At the time I was biking to where I was boarding her everyday alone so them I had to bike to miles home with a broken tail bone... I did not tell anyone about this for a couple months. I found a trainer not to far away and payed for board and training for Freckles. A couple weeks latter my trainer sat me down and explained to me that she was extremely dangerous and I needed to find a different home for her. About two months latter I found a 12 year old paint gelding who was totally broke was ridden my a 10 year old. He ended up also being drugged with pain killers because it turned out he had a club foot 2 abasess and back problems...... My trainer and I stopped at a garage sale where I saw this gorgeouse paint horse who ended up being for sale anyway... I sold the lame horse Stellar and latter finally sold Freckles, at this point we had spend over $5000 dolars on board, training and horses. I checked out that paint horse I saw at the garage sale and he was very green but obviously sweet and sound. His owner Amy emailed me a couple months latter letting me know that he is going to have to go to a horse sale unless she finds a home for him by the end of the month. I could never have seen that beautiful horse go to slaughter. Me myself and I finally paid for him by the end of December and brought him home. Was not able to work with him till late spring because it was to cold. Fell in love with him during the winter! We became best friends I loved him soooo much. Started working him, He was very cinchy and would blow up often most often could not get the headstall on him. My trainer rode him about 8 times before I finally got on him the day after my 15th birthday. It was extremely hard to loose confidence over and over again. I almost quite a couple times and went through allot of depression but I kept trying and listened to my trainer and learned. I spent time on this website and lot's of others learning trying to understand more and more about horses. It has been 17 months seance I bought Freckles and Sunny my paint horse I found at a garage sale is doing amazing I can now through a saddle on him and go do whatever I want. I am the assistant manage of my trainers stable and am living here working full time and over time helping her train horses. Just keep trying and working at your dream, put one foot in front of the other and try your hardest cry when you need to. If your exhausted take a day sleep and get back up and work two weeks straight! Good luck!!! If you ever need anything ells just message me! Also riding a very broke lesson horse would help with your confidence.
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        09-12-2013, 06:14 PM
      #54
    Weanling
    Hold on!

    I'm just going to tell you my story and hope it helps you!

    I grew up in the middle of nowhere, no horses for miles. I have loved horses seance I was supper young, I even made my dad promise when I was three to someday get me a horse. My family had NO money. My dad did end up getting me a horse after a year of lessons when I was seven. She was a three year old not broke Morgan mare in foul, I had her only a year. We had no idea how to take care of a horse. When I turned 13 a decided that I needed to start working towards my dream or it would never happen. I worked filling truckloads of horse manure my hand in trade for riding lessons. I took lessons for a couple months but ended up being to busy working three other jobs to make money to actually buy the horse. I was working at a grocery store, working on a farm and haling wood. I worked all summer and fall. The next spring my dad not an inhairatence and dicided to buy me a horse as long as I pay for feed, board, tack, etc. I told my dad I wanted a supper broke 10 to 16 year old gelding perfect for a beginner. He wanted me to get a young broke horse that I could spend years and years with and again we made the mistake of getting the first horse we looked at, her name was Freckles she was a 5 year old Appaloosa mare. I rode her before buying her and she was great! I am almost positive now that she was drugged and worked probably twice that day before I got there. I got her home, did not ride her for a couple weeks due to lack of a saddle. Rode her bareback once she was okay a little hot.. Second time I rode her she bucked me off, I landed on a rock and broke my tail bone. At the time I was biking to where I was boarding her everyday alone so them I had to bike to miles home with a broken tail bone... I did not tell anyone about this for a couple months. I found a trainer not to far away and payed for board and training for Freckles. A couple weeks latter my trainer sat me down and explained to me that she was extremely dangerous and I needed to find a different home for her. About two months latter I found a 12 year old paint gelding who was totally broke was ridden my a 10 year old. He ended up also being drugged with pain killers because it turned out he had a club foot 2 abasess and back problems...... My trainer and I stopped at a garage sale where I saw this gorgeouse paint horse who ended up being for sale anyway... I sold the lame horse Stellar and latter finally sold Freckles, at this point we had spend over $5000 dolars on board, training and horses. I checked out that paint horse I saw at the garage sale and he was very green but obviously sweet and sound. His owner Amy emailed me a couple months latter letting me know that he is going to have to go to a horse sale unless she finds a home for him by the end of the month. I could never have seen that beautiful horse go to slaughter. Me myself and I finally paid for him by the end of December and brought him home. Was not able to work with him till late spring because it was to cold. Fell in love with him during the winter! We became best friends I loved him soooo much. Started working him, He was very cinchy and would blow up often most often could not get the headstall on him. My trainer rode him about 8 times before I finally got on him the day after my 15th birthday. It was extremely hard to loose confidence over and over again. I almost quite a couple times and went through allot of depression but I kept trying and listened to my trainer and learned. I spent time on this website and lot's of others learning trying to understand more and more about horses. It has been 17 months seance I bought Freckles and Sunny my paint horse I found at a garage sale is doing amazing I can now through a saddle on him and go do whatever I want. I am the assistant manage of my trainers stable and am living here working full time and over time helping her train horses. Just keep trying and working at your dream, put one foot in front of the other and try your hardest cry when you need to. If your exhausted take a day sleep and get back up and work two weeks straight! Good luck!!! If you ever need anything ells just message me! Also riding a very broke lesson horse would help with your confidence.
         
        09-26-2013, 06:24 AM
      #55
    Foal
    So, I have been taking lessons for 3 weeks and have made the decision to sell my fox trotter. I realized that in order for me to get my confidence up I need a slower paced horse I can practice on. I am getting a 15yo QH gelding that is currently being used as a lesson horse. His owner is a trainer and she rides him around tackless. He responds to verbal queues and neck reins. He has also been used as a therapy horse for people afraid of horses and handicapped children/adults. I feel very blessed to have found him!
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        09-26-2013, 09:19 AM
      #56
    Green Broke
    Sometimes the forwardness of a gaited horse is just too much & the slower QH may be just the thing for you to get your confidence back. Glad you found a horse you feel comfortable on. Let us know how it goes, OK?
         
        09-26-2013, 01:06 PM
      #57
    Showing
    He sounds like an absolute doll. So glad you found him and I'm sure he'll be a good one for you.
         
        09-26-2013, 01:26 PM
      #58
    Started
    A very wise plan!!!!!!!!!
    The QH sounds like a good partner for you.
         
        09-26-2013, 01:50 PM
      #59
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Cacowgirl    
    Sometimes the forwardness of a gaited horse is just too much & the slower QH may be just the thing for you to get your confidence back. Glad you found a horse you feel comfortable on. Let us know how it goes, OK?

    That's interesting as I just sold my quarter horse cross after 4 years of ups and downs. Bought a very forward Morgan that I feel way more confident on than I ever did the QH.

    OP: Confidence is a very hard thing to get back but once you do the feeling is wonderful. I almost got totally out of horses and didn't enjoy riding (fighting) with my horse. I now look forward to riding again. Glad to see things are going much better for you.
         
        09-27-2013, 07:50 AM
      #60
    Green Broke
    I myself really like a forward -go-getter type horse. I saw a very nice gelding, & I knew he would be a great horse for safety, etc. but I also knew he would have bored me to tears. So, instead of buying fairly close to home, I put almost 1,000 miles on our big truck to bring my girls' home from Utah. It was an exhausting trip, but I am thrilled to have them. It's just different strokes for different folks.
         

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