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post #81 of 101 Old 10-21-2013, 10:51 AM
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I completely understand your situation. Horses are my DREAM, too. I'm starting to secondguess myself, as well. I hope that you get it all worked out. I'm optimistic for us both. I know that I need an instructor/trainer to help me. It is me, not my horse. Why am I such a wienee?? :-O
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From one weenie to another, good luck! Us weenies need to stick together!
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post #83 of 101 Old 10-25-2013, 04:01 PM
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I like to consider myself pretty knowledgeable about horses and I always find something that I didn't know or if I am riding about half of the times I ride, I find something that I am not completely comfortable with. Haha, when you hear some of my stories, you will find yourself feeling brave! :P In fact, the first time that I rode a horse that was not necessarily a kids wonderfully trained horse was a pain in the butt pony who was an angel on the ground and a jerk on the saddle. I am naturally more comfortable in the saddle but when this pony started to "run" home, I freaked and thought about not riding her anymore. Later, I learned I was waaayy to unfocused and thought her trotting was a run. I saw her in the pasture doing the same trot she had done with me and it was a little princess clop!!! I was soo surprised!!!!! I had soo thought she was cantering and I was going to die!!! Now, a horse who suddenly canters off with no warning whatsoever, who is about 16 hands tall, does not scare me in the least. And next time your horse gets spooked if you have researched or thought about it a lot, if you have a plan of what to do when it happens, you will not care as much and you will be able to handle it. Whatever you do, do not stop riding! It doesn't matter how many times you get hurt or scared, if you keep going, that's all that matters!
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post #84 of 101 Old 10-25-2013, 05:20 PM
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Someone has been listening to a destructive voice in her head, the one that is determined to stop you from enjoying your horse. If you listen to it, it will relate every possible scenario it can think up. How would you react to someone who talked to you like this. You'd tell them to get lost. You need to do the same with that voice. It's your ego trying to cause trouble and you're letting it. When mine starts in on me, I tell it to go sit in a corner (usually laughing), like a naughty child, and that I'll deal with it later. The more I do this, the less I hear the negative voice.
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post #85 of 101 Old 10-26-2013, 05:24 PM
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I know how your feeling. Just two years ago I lost all my confidence when a horse named Snowy bolted. I managed to stay on but I was terrified. But then I moved to my new stables and with the help of the instructors I'm gaining confidence rapidly. I'm always up for a challenge in lessons now thanks to Holly and Roly. Their horses by the way!
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post #86 of 101 Old 11-07-2013, 02:05 PM
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Every rider, I don't care how good you are, has experiences that cause the heart to jump into the throat! Take this as what it is - a bad spook - and you stayed on and you did well.
Confidence will come with more experience, but for now, just get back up there even if you are very nervous, just do it and you will have a great ride and feel ok again. It goes up and down like a roller coaster sometimes with these guys!!

IF you have more bad rides than good ones, consider a different horse. It's not failure to say you've made a mistake and it's not worth it to keep going on with a horse and hating every ride

Just see what comes of it, don't put too much pressure on yourself and have fun.

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post #87 of 101 Old 11-08-2013, 07:52 PM
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IF you have more bad rides than good ones, consider a different horse.

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post #88 of 101 Old 12-05-2013, 03:51 PM
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I had a really bad fall off a horse and got a grade 3 concussion. I was extremely scared to ride again, but my coach suggested taking it very slow and always end a riding session on a good note when you and the horse feel relaxed and happy. A good coach will understand and help you get your confidence back.
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post #89 of 101 Old 12-05-2013, 05:54 PM
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I think the biggest thing that new riders need to accept with riding horses is at some point your butt is probably gonna end up in the dirt. But you just gotta dust off and get back on. I can't even count how many times in my 16 years of riding I've ended up on the ground but you gotta think of it as something that makes your stronger. Even broke horses get spooked sometimes. Just keep riding and confidence will come in time. A confident rider makes for a confident horse. When you are nervous your horse starts to wonder if they should worry too. I tore my meniscus training a young 3 year old when I jumped off because he took off with me before I could get my leg over. But I healed up and recently started riding again. I couldn't wait to get back on. I'll admit my confidence was a little shaken at first but once I got going again there's nothing that could keep me off them. Keep taking lessons and stay positive!
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post #90 of 101 Old 12-05-2013, 06:53 PM
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What a beautiful boy!!

It really is what an amazing lesson/regular horse can do for your confidence booster.

My lesson horse can scare me on the ground while grooming and tacking up, but I do know that I can trust her in the saddle 100% and I learned this week she's basically perfect in scary situations. I didn't have my phone on me, I was on the ground leading her to her new barn I've never been too. We had to walk through this pitch black trail that was so freakin muddy. I wouldn't of gone through it if I had known it wasn't lit. She was perfect, while I was trying to find my footing and making sure to check where she was stepping and I were stepping it was safe. I know that she might use to that situation ( the whole neighbourhood gets VERY dark, all horses wear reflectors) I'm not use to it. I was slightly nervous but I was calm and didn't project hopefully. She really boosted my confidence knowing that I can trust her in situations like that.
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