I haven't been around horses very much. My grandfather had 2 horses that my grandmother wouldn't let anyone ride. Neither would my mother. When my mom was little, she watched her uncle get dragged to death by a horse. That was my grandmother's brother and they both have been terrified of horses every since. My grandfather only used his horses for pulling a wagon.
I have been fasinated with horses every since I was little. Mainly from watching westerns on TV. But, I have never really saw anyone ride except while passing them in a vehicle or on TV. When my brother was given some horses a few years ago, I somehow connected with 1 of them, an 8-year-old mare, and that same fasination that I had when I was a kid took over. So I had him to teach me to ride. After a few rides I realized that he was just about as green as I am. I wanted to learn more than he could teach me, so I started taking lessons.
I have been taking riding lessons and love being on a horse. I have a great instructor and I understand everything she is trying to teach me except the part about using your energy.
In my first 2 lessons she kept telling me to make the horse move off my energy instead of using my legs or reins. I told her that I didn't understand and she tried to explain but it just wasn't clicking. She explained that I already was using energy to stop. I gave her a blank stare when she said that. She went on to explain that I was using my energy to make the horse stop simply by relaxing in the seat. Once I stopped moving so did my horse. I understand that part, but how the heck do you use energy to get a horse to move. I just don't get it. I can get him to move off my legs, using reins, or by clicking. But moving off energy, I keep saying to myself if I hold a light bulb in 1 hand and duracells in the other, I still won't have light. It just isn't clicking, so someone please help me understand. I guess this is part of her natural horsemanship training.
I have gotten so frustrated with this energy thing that somehow I feel that I am wasting my instructors time and mine and I haven't been back for a lesson in a few weeks.
Please help me. I know that there will be different views from different people which could make it seem like a debate. But I don't care as long as the end result is that I understand this energy thing.
Sorry for the long post and I hope I didn't make anyone as confused as I am.