When I walk her on her lead sometimes she does really well but sometimes she tries to get ahead of me and leans on me pushing me over etc. This is why I say she has "moods" she randomly changes how she acts towards me. If horses don't have moods then why does she act differently day to day???
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It may appear that at times she does what you want, and other times not, but this has more to do with the fact that when she seems to be doing what you want, it's really HER idea to do that anyway, and you are just not in her way. When it's not her idea to do what you want, then you ARE in her way.
The trick is to first make yourself so important to the horse that she will never see you as just an impediment, like scenery or furniture, but rather the most important thing in the picture and she'll keep you in her eye and mind, waiting to be directed, all the time.
The thing is that you might have to get kind of big, and maybe that will make her startled at first, when you start insisting that she "see" you . And if she acts scared for a sec, it's just her waking up to the fact that she is standing next to, yet ignoring, something that is so important she'd better pay attention to it.
Your horse does not resent your absense, or sulk. It's once again that you have become less IMPORTANT to her. You can be important by being the one who brings food, too. BUT, there again, if you just bring the food, and when she pushes you to "give it to me" , you give it to her, in her mind she MADE you give over somefood, just as she would if you were a lesser horse in the herd.
You pretend YOU are the leader, you set the food down, hang around it as if you are going to eat it, and use a whip or a long leadline swinging out at her, to make her wait, off a bit, until you have "eaten" your fill and then walk away as if you no longer have interest int hat food. Being able to move a horse off of their food, or control when they get it from you is a very good way to start creating the awareness in the hrose that YOU control things, not the other way around.