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post #21 of 25 Old 09-30-2013, 09:31 AM
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With me, it hasn't been as cut and dry as...do it and get over it! I am anxious every time I ride. I try to hide it well. There is no real reason...just my imagination of what could happen. My two horses babysit me and are awesome. They have never done anything to get me off of them. They put up with me. Any spooking they have done, was never anything I couldn't handle. So what is it?? Who knows, it's just me. I started riding in my late 30's, never as a child. Maybe that is it? I put myself in all types of situations to gain confidence.....trail rides, gymkhanas, trail challenges, riding on the beach, parades......we do it all! But I'm still scared mostly. I always feel better with another person though.

I have a sign on my tack room that states, "Courage is being scared, but saddling up anyway".

Hopefully you find the strength to move on and not be scared. Sometimes, I think it's maybe a part of your personality and maybe something you can't change.
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post #22 of 25 Old 09-30-2013, 10:31 AM
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Oh the human brain!! The hardest thing to overcome is the mental dialogue, the "what if" scenarios that conjure up all kinds of terrible scenes.
Have you heard of / tried the rubber band technique? A lot of people find it useful to interrupt the brain. (You put a rubber band around your wrist and give yourself a "pop" with it to kind of startle your brain. Kind of like telling it to cut the crap! Then you can inject your own positive thoughts like, "I can do this" or "Look! I'm riding!")
The goal is to do it every time as you retrain your brain; like recording new tracks on a record instead of replaying the same old ones that cause your body to react with fear and anxiety.
Good luck and don't forget to celebrate each small step!!
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post #23 of 25 Old 09-30-2013, 09:49 PM
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Oh the human brain!! The hardest thing to overcome is the mental dialogue, the "what if" scenarios that conjure up all kinds of terrible scenes.
Have you heard of / tried the rubber band technique? A lot of people find it useful to interrupt the brain. (You put a rubber band around your wrist and give yourself a "pop" with it to kind of startle your brain. Kind of like telling it to cut the crap! Then you can inject your own positive thoughts like, "I can do this" or "Look! I'm riding!")
The goal is to do it every time as you retrain your brain; like recording new tracks on a record instead of replaying the same old ones that cause your body to react with fear and anxiety.
Good luck and don't forget to celebrate each small step!!
Wow, never heard of the rubber band technique! I will have to try that!...lol. Not sure there is much hope for me though. I talk to myself in my head the whole time I'm anxious and it doesn't really change. I was riding Snickers in a parade yesterday....this was a much easier parade than some she has been in. She has NEVER done anything, even in the most chaotic or parades...I kept telling myself that. However, I could not bring myself to keep only one hand on the reins, rather than two....I would like to neck rein one day and I had to use one hand to wave at the crowd! Yes, the brain of ours is a very powerful thing!!!
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post #24 of 25 Old 10-02-2013, 03:00 PM
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The best way I find to overcome my fear is to sit in on other people's lessons. I know when I am riding its harder to actually see what the horse or myself is actually doing then what Im imagining in my head is happening. Sitting in on lessons allows me to see what the horse and rider do, what the horse will usually do when he doesnt want to do something and how the coach gets the rider to fix it. I love watching my trainer riding my young horse, this way I can watch and see how he handles situations and when it comes time for me to ride him (Next year) I will be able to think back to what my coach did. I also find watching lessons allows me to come up with questions and think on it and when the lesson is over I usually will ask "When so and so did this and you got them to do this.. why?"
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post #25 of 25 Old 10-05-2013, 02:48 PM
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okay so i dont know how this works but lets give it a shot.... i have a gelding is it very big probbly around 17 hands i bought three months ago and sent him to trainging to one of the best in the area he has a history of bucking well i rode him during training as he got trained he did fine i got him home and he sat with another horse for two weeks did not mess with him he became herd sour so lunged him for a while then got on he did fine but wanted to run as i didnt but to make a long story short what happened is after two hours of riding the other horse called he stopped and i got him going again but instead of going foward we went backwards as fast as he could then he stopped i got him going again same thing then he put his head down to get grass i pulled it up and he threw me off i get back on and with in 2 mins i was off again now im thinking about seeling him but i am very attached and hopefull for this big guy being he is 5 yrs old and people have gave up on him before any idea
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