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    09-16-2013, 10:30 AM
  #11
Foal
OP, I understand your discouragement in reading these answers. I'm one who would just love to snuggle up to a horse, and really wish they were like big dogs. Thankfully, the people here at the HF (and my instructor : ) ) bring me back to reality so that I can eventually come to understand horses better and interact with them in a safer way. I get it though, I really do.

Try not to be too disheartened. You learned something new and can make better decisions in approaching these horses now. : )

Why not ask the owner about it? If they say no, you've saved yourself from a difficult situation. They might say yes though. They might even offer to teach you a little more about the horses, or let you come to their barn to see them and learn about them. I just talked to an acquaintance from church on Sunday, telling her I had started taking riding lessons and saying in remembered she had horses. She invited to come let me watch when she works with her trainer this week. : ) I was only trying to start some conversation, and ended up with a great opportunity. You just ner know. It's worth a shot. : )
     
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    09-16-2013, 08:47 PM
  #12
Foal
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Originally Posted by LilacsBloom    
OP, I understand your discouragement in reading these answers. I'm one who would just love to snuggle up to a horse, and really wish they were like big dogs. Thankfully, the people here at the HF (and my instructor : ) ) bring me back to reality so that I can eventually come to understand horses better and interact with them in a safer way. I get it though, I really do.

Try not to be too disheartened. You learned something new and can make better decisions in approaching these horses now. : )

Why not ask the owner about it? If they say no, you've saved yourself from a difficult situation. They might say yes though. They might even offer to teach you a little more about the horses, or let you come to their barn to see them and learn about them. I just talked to an acquaintance from church on Sunday, telling her I had started taking riding lessons and saying in remembered she had horses. She invited to come let me watch when she works with her trainer this week. : ) I was only trying to start some conversation, and ended up with a great opportunity. You just ner know. It's worth a shot. : )
Honestly I am afraid to ask them since they might be angry from me petting their horse. I have anxiety problems and part of the reason I stopped so often was to talk to the horses and relieve stress. Life is hectic for me and taking an hour to just talk to them and pet them relieves a ton of stress. Its in the middle of nowhere and usually late at night, talking to the horses just seems to help my mind a lot. I might just stop since I have heard all this, apparently my very presence can be a cancer to the horses and I would rather them not become rowdy because of me just stopping by and giving them affection. I can't afford a horse, nor do I have space for one to stay.

On a side note the older larger horse seems to like me more and will chase off the younger one so that she has my full attention. She doesn't push into me like some here are saying, more so she leans over curiously and after a few minutes nuzzles my arms sniffing me. She isn't really pushy, but I guess I am still a scratching post to her. Either way I can't see how someone can become close to a horse if this is all they see people as.
     
    09-16-2013, 08:53 PM
  #13
Trained
I can't see any reason why you couldn't still stop and talk and watch, just don't touch or feed. I know though -- the touching is a big part of it :( Maybe your parents would be willing to go with you to ask the neighbours about it?
     
    09-16-2013, 08:59 PM
  #14
Foal
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Originally Posted by NorthernMama    
I can't see any reason why you couldn't still stop and talk and watch, just don't touch or feed. I know though -- the touching is a big part of it :( Maybe your parents would be willing to go with you to ask the neighbours about it?
Funny, I'm almost 26 years old. My family is part of my anxiety if that means anything, and they are not very understanding. Plus it seems odd for them to accompany a male of my age for such a reason. But thank you nonetheless for the suggestion, it means something to me. I suppose I can walk by and just stare at them, still I really did enjoy scratching them all over... Even if my nails were coated in black horse grease when I was done.
     
    09-16-2013, 09:10 PM
  #15
Weanling
Horses can become close to humans, but that's when they look to you as a leader. The owner probably wouldn't mind one bit all you have to do is ask. You could also go to a stable and volunteer your time to groom the horses occasionally and have someone experienced show you the steps. The contact is a big part of the stress relief. I also had anxiety issues, pretty severe might I add, and horses took it away.
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    09-16-2013, 09:11 PM
  #16
Green Broke
Do you know any horse stables in the area ? Some places will let you work there, mucking stalls/feeding/watering, in exchange for lessons or time with the horses. Horses are a great therapy. I have anxiety and emotional issues as well and nothing relieves stress or depression like time with my horse. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to interact with them, that is a great thing! It just needs to be done with permission for you and the horses' safety.
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    09-16-2013, 09:13 PM
  #17
Trained
Oops, sorry if what I said made you feel worse :(

Still, if not your family, maybe you can take a friend with you to ask. Just some people find it easier to deal with a situation they find uncomfortable with someone there just for emotional support.

Whether you're 26 or 46 or 16, anxiety is still real for many people. I think if the horses make you feel good it's worth trying to find some way to be able to visit them, with safety in mind for both you and the horses.
     
    09-16-2013, 09:35 PM
  #18
Weanling
It seems as if your heart is in the right place, but as a horse owner, I wouldn't like a stranger feeding my horse. I wouldn't mind you petting him, but he gets nippy when he gets treats. It's actually pretty common. So, go ahead and give them their scratches, but keep the treats to a minimum! :)
     
    09-16-2013, 09:58 PM
  #19
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Originally Posted by SimonTheSkink    
Honestly I am afraid to ask them since they might be angry from me petting their horse. I have anxiety problems and part of the reason I stopped so often was to talk to the horses and relieve stress. Life is hectic for me and taking an hour to just talk to them and pet them relieves a ton of stress. Its in the middle of nowhere and usually late at night, talking to the horses just seems to help my mind a lot. I might just stop since I have heard all this, apparently my very presence can be a cancer to the horses and I would rather them not become rowdy because of me just stopping by and giving them affection. I can't afford a horse, nor do I have space for one to stay.

On a side note the older larger horse seems to like me more and will chase off the younger one so that she has my full attention. She doesn't push into me like some here are saying, more so she leans over curiously and after a few minutes nuzzles my arms sniffing me. She isn't really pushy, but I guess I am still a scratching post to her. Either way I can't see how someone can become close to a horse if this is all they see people as.
I can totally relate with how enjoyable it is to pet horses. And, to be honest, I still pet horses that will come up to the fence. I just don't feed them. I take it upon myself to take the risk if they bite me, and I know others will disagree with me on this, and I may be wrong. I love on them, scratch them, just as you described. I don't, however, assume that they won't bite me. I assume they MIGHT bite me and I am very aware of them and make sure that they keep their mouths respectful.
Since I have spent enough time with horses to read their language, I can make an "educated" guess as to when they are becoming irked or scared or defensive enough that they might decide to bite me (biting is very natural for animals). A person who is very new to horses takes a bigger risk. But, you know, life is about risk. I was just saying that you could lessen your risk a lot be not allowing them to nuzzle your chest, and
Feeding them treats is what's more likely to anger the owner.

But, you have nothing to lose by speaking with them. Heck, they might invite you and introduce you to them and you might take one step, then another , then another and end up actually riding them! You just never know.
     
    09-16-2013, 10:23 PM
  #20
Started
It's not that horse people are just mean and just don't want people giving their horses treats. Some horses have very sensitive diets. The wrong treats can make them ill, which is often a rather expensive vet bill. That combined with horses being unpredictable at times, can be a rather expensive medical bill.

Don't be discouraged, just get permission from the owners first. Continue learning about horses and maybe volunteer!
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