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        11-18-2013, 09:48 PM
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    Foal
    How to get boyfriend into riding?

    I recently finally convinced my boyfriend to give riding a try. He was always one of those guys who never wanted to try it. We went riding together last week and it looked like he was having a good time. Never complained or anything, when I asked him if he wanted to go again, he told me he didn't want to and felt like riding was more of a woman's thing. Maybe he was just uncomfortable? I'm not sure

    Any ideas?
         
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        11-18-2013, 10:02 PM
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    Green Broke
    At least he gave it a try. If he doesn't like it he doesn't like it. You should be grateful he is was willing to come with you.
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        11-18-2013, 10:06 PM
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    Foal
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    Originally Posted by SlideStop    
    At least he gave it a try. If he doesn't like it he doesn't like it. You should be grateful he is was willing to come with you.
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    Yeah I guess, he also wore shorts, which I told him not to wear, which must have made his legs chafe quite a bit
         
        11-18-2013, 10:06 PM
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    Foal
    Maybe its just not something he enjoys and your going to have to just live with it, there's no harm in asking him if he would like to join you or have him around your horses, But you have to respect his decision if its something he's just not into.
    I once dated a guy way back when who never liked to go riding till one day I convinced him to come with me, like your bf he seemed to be enjoying himself and never complained, but he never wanted to do it after that. I then heard the grape vine that he didn't want to continue on because he was afraid to fail at it in front of me. Point being there could be a number of issues behind why he doesn't want to do it anymore, your probably best off trying to talk to him about it and see, just don't try n push the subject on him, might do more harm then good.

    Maybe there's an activity that he enjoys that you could offer to go and do with him, and spend time doing things he does enjoy, then maybe he will be open to trying out horses again.

    I have a non horsey husband, he supports my addiction and love of horses, but its just not his thing, some ppl like it some ppl don't. I don't have really any other advice for you, maybe someone else here does :)
         
        11-18-2013, 10:09 PM
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    Foal
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    Originally Posted by NorthernHorse    
    Maybe its just not something he enjoys and your going to have to just live with it, there's no harm in asking him if he would like to join you or have him around your horses, But you have to respect his decision if its something he's just not into.
    I once dated a guy way back when who never liked to go riding till one day I convinced him to come with me, like your bf he seemed to be enjoying himself and never complained, but he never wanted to do it after that. I then heard the grape vine that he didn't want to continue on because he was afraid to fail at it in front of me. Point being there could be a number of issues behind why he doesn't want to do it anymore, your probably best off trying to talk to him about it and see, just don't try n push the subject on him, might do more harm then good.

    Maybe there's an activity that he enjoys that you could offer to go and do with him, and spend time doing things he does enjoy, then maybe he will be open to trying out horses again.

    I have a non horsey husband, he supports my addiction and love of horses, but its just not his thing, some ppl like it some ppl don't. I don't have really any other advice for you, maybe someone else here does :)
    I see what you mean, I just thought he would really like it once he got the hang of it. Like you said I think he just be afraid to fail in front of me, afterall the first time he came to ride we witnessed someone fly off their horse!
         
        11-18-2013, 10:15 PM
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    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by englishback704    
    I recently finally convinced my boyfriend to give riding a try. He was always one of those guys who never wanted to try it. We went riding together last week and it looked like he was having a good time. Never complained or anything, when I asked him if he wanted to go again, he told me he didn't want to and felt like riding was more of a woman's thing. Maybe he was just uncomfortable? I'm not sure

    Any ideas?
    We're you coaching him or perhaps over coaching him ? I'm not saying you were, but that could put a slight dent in a guy 's ego. Making a ride turn into a lesson.

    Just a thought . . .
         
        11-18-2013, 10:18 PM
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    Foal
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    Originally Posted by bkylem    
    We're you coaching him or perhaps over coaching him ? I'm not saying you were, but that could put a slight dent in a guy 's ego. Making a ride turn into a lesson.

    Just a thought . . .

    Yeah that could be it too. I tried not to talk down to him, but I was trying to give him advice, hope he didn't take it the wrong way

    He did look a bit uncomfortable with his saddle during our ride, but never said anything.
         
        11-18-2013, 10:23 PM
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    Started
    At least he tried I've been trying to convince my bf of 4 years to get on a horse since day 1 but he's not keen on the idea so I (begrudgingly)respect his decision. After all, he still makes the trip to shows with me and will help me from the ground if I need it. He is my camera crew, he will sit out in the paddock with a deck chair while I ride if I ask (or bribe) nicely enough, so I'm happy with that.
    Just like I support his love of golf. I won't play (mainly because golf balls + me = people in hospital), but I'll go with him to the driving range and the golf course, i'll watch his soccer games but I won't play with him. He has his sports, I have mine
         
        11-18-2013, 10:26 PM
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    Foal
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    Originally Posted by HollyBubbles    
    At least he tried I've been trying to convince my bf of 4 years to get on a horse since day 1 but he's not keen on the idea so I (begrudgingly)respect his decision. After all, he still makes the trip to shows with me and will help me from the ground if I need it. He is my camera crew, he will sit out in the paddock with a deck chair while I ride if I ask (or bribe) nicely enough, so I'm happy with that.
    Just like I support his love of golf. I won't play (mainly because golf balls + me = people in hospital), but I'll go with him to the driving range and the golf course, i'll watch his soccer games but I won't play with him. He has his sports, I have mine
    Do you think men shy away from it because of this false perception of it being a female sport?
         
        11-18-2013, 10:26 PM
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    Foal
    When I introduced my man to riding the first time he was scared of it. Now he is ok with it. He will never be the horse nut I am but he will ride with me if I ask. Sometimes you just got to be happy with what someone else gives you. And you never know he may end up liking it after all. Try showing him some of the more manly horse riding like the western stuff. Roping and such.
         

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