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        06-06-2013, 09:46 PM
      #21
    Foal
    Hey have you ever thought of learning how to use a car or buggy? Harnessing might be fun - just a thought :)
         
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        07-04-2013, 07:55 PM
      #22
    Foal
    You know what is crazy, everyone tells me I have the best tempered loyal appendix quarter horse and he really does listen only thing he really does if he is out eating in the field and I go out there with treats to just work with him a bit he will get too excited for the treats and won't listen but just like you, I lost my confidence and I cannot figure out why all that happened is he would sometimes act out when I would be in the arena with my trainer and he would not want to go a certain way and would jump away I felt like I would get a heart attack and so each time this happened I would get too nervousee to ride and I have fallen off once because we were trotting and I did not realize there was a guy spraying for flies and bug and etc. and he jumped out of the bushes so my horse got started and jumped away while trotting and off I went but I did get mad and got right back on but now that I have my horse at home with me and I see how he runs around and he got out of the fence once and got away from me running full speed I just have this fear constantly that while I am on him he will just run off with me and to make it worse he sometimes won't want to go so when I push him to go and he does something that makes me feel he does not want to be doing it I loose my confidence more and more so I'm trying to do things slowly. But don't give up. I hope to find a horse rideing buddy because I don't know anyone around my area so it gets lonely but I hope you don't give up and keep me updated on how you do because I'll be trying but because of my fear I have not ridden in about 3 weeks and I don't want my horse to just be a lawn ornament.
         
        07-04-2013, 08:09 PM
      #23
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by Woodstock77    
    You know what is crazy, everyone tells me I have the best tempered loyal appendix quarter horse and he really does listen only thing he really does if he is out eating in the field and I go out there with treats to just work with him a bit he will get too excited for the treats and won't listen but just like you, I lost my confidence and I cannot figure out why all that happened is he would sometimes act out when I would be in the arena with my trainer and he would not want to go a certain way and would jump away I felt like I would get a heart attack and so each time this happened I would get too nervousee to ride and I have fallen off once because we were trotting and I did not realize there was a guy spraying for flies and bug and etc. and he jumped out of the bushes so my horse got started and jumped away while trotting and off I went but I did get mad and got right back on but now that I have my horse at home with me and I see how he runs around and he got out of the fence once and got away from me running full speed I just have this fear constantly that while I am on him he will just run off with me and to make it worse he sometimes won't want to go so when I push him to go and he does something that makes me feel he does not want to be doing it I loose my confidence more and more so I'm trying to do things slowly. But don't give up. I hope to find a horse rideing buddy because I don't know anyone around my area so it gets lonely but I hope you don't give up and keep me updated on how you do because I'll be trying but because of my fear I have not ridden in about 3 weeks and I don't want my horse to just be a lawn ornament.
    It sounds as though your horse has figured out how to get under your skin. Either you need a trainer to teach you how to become stern when he is a jackrabbit and ignore him when he "spooks"

    Or

    You may need to think about lessons on really bombproof horses until you regain your confidence.

    Falling off shouldn't be scary, but it usually is because we think about it too much and psych ourselves out.. and thus become "defensive" riders.
         
        07-04-2013, 09:25 PM
      #24
    Foal
    Skyseternalangel: yeah that is one thing I am not with him is "stern" so he does do things that make me a little more nervouse.


    He is not a bad horse I am just new to rideing so I get very nervouse and I haven't ridden in a while so I am in the process of looking for a trainer but no luck yet. Any suggestions to relax while rideing ?
         
        07-04-2013, 09:35 PM
      #25
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by Woodstock77    
    Skyseternalangel: yeah that is one thing I am not with him is "stern" so he does do things that make me a little more nervouse.


    He is not a bad horse I am just new to rideing so I get very nervouse and I haven't ridden in a while so I am in the process of looking for a trainer but no luck yet. Any suggestions to relax while rideing ?
    The best thing to remember is to think positively. Don't push yourself too far past what you are comfortable with. If that means walking him pants off, then walk him. Build up to trotting and only do it for a little bit. If he tries to run off with you, open your rein out and circle him in a tight circle until he behaves.

    Also spend time just focusing on how relaxed you are (or should be) by focusing on how tightly your legs are on your horse, if you are stiff anywhere, if your shoulders are up by your ears, if you are hollowing your back and pushing your butt out.
         
        07-04-2013, 09:38 PM
      #26
    Showing
    I should also add that brushing up on good horse handling will help you out too. If you allow your horse to walk all over you, or spook at silliness on the ground, he'll do the same in the saddle.
         
        07-04-2013, 09:53 PM
      #27
    Foal
    Thanks a bunch I really need the encouragement because I'm not. Around anybody that rides so I end up wanting to ride but end up never getting on because I freak myself out. I would love to just enjoy him
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        07-04-2013, 09:57 PM
      #28
    Weanling
    MChamp13 I know how hard it is to put fear behind you and get back in the saddle. Two years ago I had a very bad accident with a horse rearing and flipping over on me. When I finally healed enough to get back on a horse I didn't think I had any fear issues until I actually sat in the saddle then the memory of the accident came crashing down on me and I was terrified. I was shaking so bad I could hardly get back off. I loved my horses and I loved riding (I had been riding for 40+ years) but my fear threated to ruin my life. I decided I was not going to let it win and I got help from a friend who put me on her dead broke qh and led me around and eventually I worked up to riding at a walk while she held a lead line from my horse to hers while we were riding. All that winter we did this and I also took lessons from a good trainer on a wonderful school horse. Spring came and I was fortunate to buy an older bomb proof horse that really helped me get my confidence back. I was still a little nervous but I could ride and slowly started enjoying my riding again. This year I felt brave enough to buy another horse because I felt I would be retiring my old horse soon. I have owned my new horse about 3 weeks now, last Sunday guess what he did? He reared straight up on me. I stayed on and finished the ride although I was very scared. I thought about it all that night the next morning I put on a helmet a protective vest breathed deeply pushed my fear aside and got back on him and had a great ride. I am still afraid often but it doesn't control me anymore because the bottom line is not riding is scarier to me than riding, I love it that much. If you really want to ride again you will find the strength to do whatever you have to do to get back in the saddle . I wish you all the best of luck and many happy years in the saddle.
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        07-04-2013, 09:59 PM
      #29
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by Woodstock77    
    Thanks a bunch I really need the encouragement because I'm not. Around anybody that rides so I end up wanting to ride but end up never getting on because I freak myself out. I would love to just enjoy him
    It definitely happens! Don't psych yourself out thinking about things too much or you'll always be scared!

    I used to be the same way, and from time to time it re-appears due to me being an absolute jerk to mysef, but if I literally don't think about anything everything falls into place.

    I hope one day that you do get to enjoy him! And I hope you find a trainer or a mentor that can really help you get there
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        07-05-2013, 08:36 AM
      #30
    Foal
    Skyseternalangel: so today I'm weakening up deciding I will get on him for the first time in about 3 weeks. I'm going to start slow and do western, I was on english but I did not feel secure so I'm switching to just be able to learn more now and stay on but I feel positive and ill let you know how it goes if you'd like. Thanks for the positive feedback
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