Originally Posted by badgerdogbren
I LOVE horses. Have been crazy about them since I could walk. Now I have horses of my own for the first time. When I was young I was in a bad accident on a horse and was badly injured. This left me VERY nervous around them. I have tried a couple of horses who turned out to have bucking problems. This has only made me more nervous. I currently have 3 horses. My daughter's POA pony and I adopted a mare for my husband who turned out to be pregnant. She had a sweet little colt in March. I want to keep the baby but he will not be ready to ride for several years. Not sure I would be the one to ride such a young energetic horse anyway. He is my baby for now and I am really enjoying bonding with him. He will be gelded as soon as the vet feels it's safe and I found a good trainer to send him to when he is older. So for now I would love to find a safe horse I can ride in the meantime and or for my permanent horse. We wanted 4 anyone to even things out here. I know they say geldings are better but we would like a mare. My husband's mare is the sweetest horse but a Quarab and too forward for me. She wants to go go go the second you mount her. Would an older horse be good? I just want a lazy mare who wants to just walk. That would be a match for my speed. I just keep running into sellers who lie to make the sale. The last one resulted in a "safe" horse who turned out to have bucking issues and bucked my daughter into a tree. I can't have that again but where to go to find a horse seller I can actually trust?
Sellers lying to make a sale is the unfortunate history the horse industry has been carrying for years and years. What I would recommend is to find a trainer, or someone who has a lot of connections within the industry and would know which horses are safe and sound for your level of experience.
Another option to ask the sellers if they would be willing to set up a 1 month trial period, that way it allows you to take the horse home and see him/her in its true colors.
To answer your other question, looking at older horses is also a great option. There are a lot of phenomenal horses out there who are quiet and very experienced and tolerant of rider mistakes. I find the older horses, are sometimes some of the best mounts.