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post #1 of 28 Old 02-20-2014, 02:25 AM Thread Starter
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Mare or gelding?


I am thinking about selling my mare and getting another horse. In your experience, is a gelding more of a "chilled" horse than a mare? I need a confidence builder, kind of a been-there-done-that kind of a horse. Gelding or mare???
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post #2 of 28 Old 02-20-2014, 02:52 AM
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There are several threads already that discuss the differences of mares and geldings. It really depends on the horse. Sex or breed does have some influences but that is in general. There are moody mares and there are moody geldings. There are chilled geldings but there are mares too.

Some say mares are more likely to be straight forward and get the job done. Geldings can be more playful. But that isn't a set rule.

Same goes for breeds. Arab, TWH, TB, or hot blood horses are usually considered more energetic. QH, Appy or warm blooded are more laid back or lazy. Draft horses or cold blooded are even more laid back or lazy. Again, not a rule but a generalization.

You have to look at the horse individually. Age and amount of training are big things to look for.

That said, I do prefer mares. Why? I feel a better connection with them.
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I just want to add that we have 5 mares. None of which get mare-ish with their heat cycles. Yes they can give attitude but so do our geldings.
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I just want to add that we have 5 mares. None of which get mare-ish with their heat cycles.
Same for our 4 mares, no mare-ish mares here.

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Thanks! I thought because mares are usually herd leaders they would try and dominate more that geldings.
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I agree with everyone else here. It's all about the individual horse. I get along very well with some horses and not so much with others, and I find that it usually has nothing to do with gender. My sister's gelding is stubborn and domineering and you really have to ride with a firm and aggressive attitude to get him to respect you. My mare is super submissive with people. All I have to do is look at her and she does what I want. My family has 5 mares and 3 geldings. Only one of our mares is really mare-ish and even she is not that bad. She gets a little back sore and irritable when she's in heat, but she's not impossible to work with. The others come into heat but aren't overly moody about it. My draft cross mare is sometimes even hard to tell when she's in heat. She really doesn't flaunt it, and I like that about her. My appaloosa gelding is probably the moodiest horse I've ever ridden. He's not bad either but he'll have days where he's spot on and the best, most well trained horse ever, and then he'll just be a pain in the butt the next day. Two of our horses are super curious and playful, one a mare and one a gelding. Every one of those horses, and every other horse I've ever worked with has just had their own personality. This is why I don't have a preference for mare or gelding.

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post #7 of 28 Old 02-20-2014, 08:21 AM
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I love'm both. Geldings require more physical maintenance ... aka.. cleaning shafts, removing stones...etc.. Mares... need more cleaning during the heat and get a bit more distracted around any stallions...naturally...or geldings too for that matter. I find it just gets down to what folks have already mentioned as well... breeding, personality, breed and luck.
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Unless you're planning to breed, gender isn't really as important as temperament. Yes, temperament can be influenced by gender (as you've read, above); but "mind" is really what you're looking for rather than, well, reproductive parts.

As usandpets mentioned, breed can be a factor in temperament, but it isn't an absolute determinant. Horses, like people, are individuals and each has its own "personality" (or is it "horse-ality?"). ;) Confusing? Absolutely. Welcome to the world of horse-shopping!

That said, my "termperament shopping list" was narrowed down by (but not limited to) the following:

(1) Breed - What are you planning to do with the horse? Which breeds fit best within this discipline? Of those breeds, which tend to be hot? Which tend to be calmer?

(2) Experience - Has the horse been trained for the discipline I'm considering? Does it have experience in the show ring, on the trail, etc.? If it has experience in "x," then when I do "x" with it, it may be calmer because "x" won't seem so new to this horse.

(3) AGE - In my experience, older horses tend to be a little more experienced and settled. Not always true, but a good rule of thumb. When I was looking, the age range I preferred was 11-16 yrs.

And then --

(4) Gender - I prefer mares, as well. Just my experience. I've had two nutty geldings, but my mares have always been great. Another thing: I prefer mares that have foaled over maiden mares. I feel that mares that have foaled tend to be more settled. (I know that having children certainly settled me, hormonally-speaking.)

After that, there are a number of other factors that will go into a final decision. I won't list them here because we're talking about temperament factors.

Take your time. Ride plenty of horses before settling on one. (I rode several before and several more after the horse that I finally bought. I knew she was "the one" because I compared all the other horses to her. She was my touch-stone.) And most of all: Don't let anyone talk you into buying a horse that isn't quite right for you, right now. I've made more mistakes by allowing someone to massage my ego: "I've seen you ride. You're good enough to handle a little more horse than that beginner-safe one I just showed you. THIS horse is one that you can 'grow into!'" BIG MISTAKE.

If you're looking for "safe" and "confidence-builder," get a good-for-me-now horse.

Good luck!
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post #9 of 28 Old 02-20-2014, 04:55 PM
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I have two geldings right now, but all horses before that were mares. I love them all very much, but I connected with one gelding and one mare above the others. I think it's the individual horse. I know people that swear by mares, but I have seen some crazy mares. Scary, crazy mares. I've never seen any geldings like that. :) But really, they're both great.
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post #10 of 28 Old 02-20-2014, 05:14 PM
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if you want something with a nicer mellow attitude, i would defenitly go with a gelding. But i have seen some mares that you could not tell were mares by the way they acted. I think it just depends on the horse
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