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    02-20-2014, 06:35 PM
Tbh, some of the craziest horses I've met are geldings. Mares just get a bad rep because they can be stubborn when they're in heat. Out of all the mares I've known, only 2 have been horrible, but then they are better to ride. Just not nice to handle. I have found some geldings to be harder to reason with. However, any horse can be perfect for a rider, whether it be stallion, mare or gelding. It depends on the training. If anything stallions are better behaved because no-one let's them get away with anything(not saying get a stallion though!!!). Just don't set your mind and say I'm only going to get a mare or vice versa. Keep your options open and look at as many horses as you can whether they be mare or gelding. You don't want to skip part an advert because it says either mare or gelding because that might just be your perfect horse. Look at anything and everything you can. Also, if there's a perfect horse out your price range at all, some will be willing to negotiate for the perfect home.
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    02-20-2014, 06:37 PM
Also, make sure you view a horse you think is right lots and lots. Horses can be drugged!!!
    02-20-2014, 07:10 PM
I would say a gelding but as said it far and away depends on the individual horse. Temperament is very important, so is training/experience.
    02-20-2014, 07:25 PM
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Ask a stallion.
Tell a gelding.
Discuss it with a mare.
Pray, if it's a pony.
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    02-20-2014, 07:35 PM
Originally Posted by usandpets    
Ask a stallion.
Tell a gelding.
Discuss it with a mare.
Pray, if it's a pony.
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Lol haven't heard that last line. I like it!

OP, thought. I would suggest leasing a horse. If possible I would do a lease to buy. My first horse (family horse) and my second horse (my own first horse) I both got when I was very young as horses I rode a lot at my barn until the barn was done with them and by then had fallen in love and we ended up purchasing them. I think that's the best way to start off. Of course there is nothing wrong with going out and buying a horse, but bring someone experienced and keep an open mind as to what you want. What you end up and absolutely love will probably be the opposite of what you planned. Just look for beginner confidence builder and you'll be good. Don't worry about height, breed, gender, etc at this point. (Unless you have a specific reason to.. don't get a pony if you're 6'+ lol)
    02-22-2014, 02:16 PM
Thank you all for your opinions... The problem in my country - South Africa - is that there is NO PPE's here. You have to decide weather you want the horse or not by looking at it and riding it maybe once. Unless it's near by, which is highly unlikely.
    02-22-2014, 02:22 PM
I'm inclined to tell you to go with a gelding. I have worked with many and they've always been wonderful and hard working and always eager to please.

I have also worked with mares and every one that I've had the "pleasure" of working with have always been bratty and extremely mare-ish so they've turned me off from the gender as a whole.

To be fair though, one mare I worked with was a pony so she had the whole "pony" attitude going on in addition to the mare deal.

I will say however, that it IS an individual horse type deal and I apparently have just been lucky enough to only work with the worst of mares and have yet to meet a nice one.
    02-22-2014, 04:50 PM
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I think it'll also come down to your personality.

I agree with the posters that say it's really an individual thing whether a certain horse is better or worse as a confidence builder.

The thing I've found for myself is that I, as a person, really want to know "why" before I do anything. And the same goes for most mares I've met - most want to know WHY you want them to do something [however "dumb"] and once they know, they're perfectly willing partners.

Many geldings, on the other hand, seem to genuinely care less about the "why".

For me, since I appreciate the "why", I find I tend to get along best with mares who want to know "why" too.
I've met mares that could care less about "why" and I've met geldings where "why" is their favorite question.

I've also found that many mares seem to, I guess, "care" more. Maybe it's that maternal instinct coming out? I'm not sure, but I've found that mares can tend towards being more "emotional" than geldings. For instance, I've never fallen off my mare because she HATES people falling off. As a result, she consciously works to keep me on when I'm in danger of falling. There have been many times when I should have fallen and didn't, solely because she didn't allow it. For me, that's a huge bonus since I love feeling like my mount is "awake"...but some people really hate that!
Of course, some geldings really care too. It's not a sure thing that a mare will care and it's not a sure thing that a gelding won't!

Anyway, for me, my confidence builder is a 29 years young Arabian mare who is prettttty darn hot on the ground, but would never dream of hurting anyone or being anything other than perfect [but quietly opinionated] undersaddle.
My personal fear is cantering and she's never once missed a step while cantering. She's never bucked, never slipped, or done anything else to make me feel less than safe while we canter.

I used to think my ideal steady-eddy was an older Quarter Horse gelding who was mostly interested in grazing and going with the flow. However, I've changed that and now my ideal steady-eddy is a been-there-done-that, energetic, old-lady Arabian mare!

Anyway, don't discount a certain breed or gender because of a stereotype. They might be JUST what you need. :)
    02-22-2014, 10:37 PM
Originally Posted by Heleen Strydom    
Thank you all for your opinions... The problem in my country - South Africa - is that there is NO PPE's here. You have to decide weather you want the horse or not by looking at it and riding it maybe once. Unless it's near by, which is highly unlikely.
Well, do you have any vets?

Even if not I would try to bring someone knowledgeable to take a look for you and advise you.
    02-23-2014, 10:00 AM
Lol! Yes Yogiwick, we do have vets. Lots of them! But not many who specialize in horses. Luckily my husband's a farmer, so whenever the vet comes out for his cattle, he takes a look at my two horses as well. The other problem here is that horses seem to drift from one owner to the next. It is very hard to trace the horse's original owner to ask about its training. So many "horseman" here believe the best way to tame and back a horse is to get someone with more confidence than brain cells to jump onto its back and try to stay put until the horse is used to having someone there.

That is not how I believe a horse should me trained!!!

So my next question... What age? I've bought my daughter a 21yo pony and he just goes with the flow. I hear, however, that some older horses tend to be more stubborn because they feel they have done their share and don't want to be messed with.

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