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post #21 of 28 Old 02-23-2014, 10:28 AM
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I agree with the other posters... to an extent. xD I do agree that it's definitely all about the individual. While you're shopping for horses I wouldn't have that be a defining search factor.
That said, I will never purchase another mare. Ever. I have met too many witchy/moody ones, and they're just not my cup of tea. Sure, my gelding can have his moments (all horses can) but overall I much prefer the stereotypical gelding to the stereotypical mare.

As far as age... another tricky one. I've dealt with young horses that were steady as could be, as well as older horses that still acted spooky and green. By now, my 21 year old is a gentleman who acts his age, and who still has plenty of good years left in him.

How much experience do you have, and what are you planning to do? (I didn't see it listed elsewhere in the thread, but I could have missed it) 10-20 is usually a good age range for less experienced owners. 15-20 if you're /very/ inexperienced and/or don't want to put up with a greenies sillies.
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Horses all have different personalities and so do humans. Sometimes you get a bad mix of the two. I love the mares. But this doesn't say that there aren't nice geldings out there too! Mares, to me, are more focused on the task, with no goofy games. Now, it also means that you must be the alpha to her and gain her respect, since mares are the leaders of the herd. I feel like once you establish that hierarchy with a mare, she is putty in your hands....even the craziest, moody ones. I have two mares...and I don't care what is going on hormonally or between the two of them, it all stops when they are with me, individually or the three of us together. Geldings are more playful and may have an alternative agenda. However, that is good for some people who want their horses to be 'fun'! Some people like the mystery and being kept guessing.

However, if you are a timid person, unable to establish that hierarchy with a mare, that could get you in trouble too....but, that can apply to both sexes as well.
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post #23 of 28 Old 02-23-2014, 11:52 AM
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Oh and age.....I think that can be meaningless too. They always say an older horse is better since they have already had experience and miles put on them, so they should tend to be calmer and better behaved. However, the older they are, the more problems could have been created with them by bad handling and riding as well. They also could have developed bad habits and bad experiences.

I have had old and young....I train them and establish the respect before I get on their back. Then the rest falls into place.
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I've always 'clicked' better with mares, but I might have my first gelding soon, and he and I get along really well. Find a horse that you feel comfortable riding, don't discount either gender. A personal connection will be the icing on the cake, and usually comes with time, unless you're lucky enough to get the 'instant click'. Wallaby- I've never thought about it before, but I never fell off of either of my mares, one been-there, done-that paint, and one green as could be 4 yo Quarab. Interesting theory!

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post #25 of 28 Old 02-23-2014, 01:14 PM
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I have 5 mares. 2 out of the 3 are terribly flirty when in season - though not difficult to handle or ride they can get themselves kicked in the field when another horse objects to their advances
Assuming that a gelding you go to see hasn't been drugged or had the legs ridden off it to wear it out beforehand (it happens more than people think) then what you see will be what you get whereas when you buy a mare unless its in season at the time you have no idea what its going to be like when it is - and there are some that can be real pains to own, handle and ride
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Currently I have a 21yo pony (gelding) and this 7yo cross breed mare. The previous owner told me Winter is a warmblood although se has the burn mark on her butt of a well-known Arabian stud here in South Africa. But she's definitely NOT an Arab. I loooove Winter to bits, but she doesn't see me as her leader. Our story is a pretty long story and I have posted a thread of it before. She had before though, but after my pregnancy and her "vacation" of over a year, I just can't get her to go forward.

In my work environment I have a leader's role, but I think I am submissive to Winter!!!! Yes, I said it! I have tried some ground work with her. She moves her feet nicely - front and back - but she refused to back up. I have tried as many ways as possible to get her to back up, but in vain. I haven't started lunging yet...

I have ridden all my life, but Winter is only the second horse I owned. I have no interested in showing or jumping. Currently I take out Tequila, the pony (14.hh - is he even a pony with that height?) for pleasure rides. That is all I am interested in - trail riding!
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post #27 of 28 Old 02-23-2014, 02:39 PM
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Yes Geldings have a more mellow attitude but my mare gives more heart in her try than any Gelding I have ever owned. I think what matters most is finding a horse that is suited to you. I am a tiny woman and ride 16.1 horse and honestly you would never put us together but she is honestly the best mount I have ever had in 20 yrs.
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post #28 of 28 Old 02-23-2014, 03:53 PM
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Whether the horse is going to be suitable depends on many more factors than if they're a mare or gelding. Saying that though, if I were to give you an umbrella answer I'd say geldings. I love mares however in my experience they test you more and have more difficult personalities. You really have to judge each individual on its merits though.
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