Is my horse is to advanced for me?
Okay, so here's the thing, I have loved horses all of my life, & I have been trying to talk my parents into buying me one of my own, so I began taking lessons & working at barns with a vet also. After about a year of staying really serious & committed to horses my parents finally said yes, so we started looking for a horse to buy, & since I was not a beginner, we did not want a dead broke trail horse or lesson horse, but something that would take my riding talent to the next level. We found this 11 year gorgeous pinto mare that I test rode on a lunge line with trainers around & she rode great! She collected nicely, & had some dressage training also. I instantly fell in love with her so we bought her a couple days later. She came with some lessons & a month of free board, so when I took her to the lessons it was nearly impossible to keep her at a walk. I got better and better with controlling her, but when the month was over, she got back to our barn & still won't slow down or listen to me at all. I am an experienced rider, & was aware that she was a forward horse, but not that forward. She is horrible on trails, she tries to turn back to the barn every 2 seconds, turns in circles in the middle of the road when a car is coming, & is just plain naughty. I tried everything to get her to slow, but nothing works. I get so frustrated with her & I don't even know what to do, I told my parents that we should get rid of her & buy a pony/dead broke horse, but they said if I get rid of her I can't get another horse, and horses are my passion. I don't know what to do anymore, get a stronger bit? Send her training? Sell her? I just feel like she is to advanced. Plus I work with her just about every day, lunging or groundwork. My parents say its my fault that she wont listen to me, and that I need to work with her more outside, which I do occasionally because it is winter and there is lots of snow and ice. They also refuse to get me a trainer, so I would have to pay for one out of my own wallet (I'm only 15, so its hard to get a well paying job). I have also had her for five months :/