Join Date: May 2013
Location: Southwestern Idaho
I went through this exact situation with my first horse. I bought her after hanging out with her for 5 or 6 hours. I never rode her, just knew she was the horse for me. (I know, I know..stupid!)
Anyways I had her for three months, and put her on craigslist. I knew that if I sold her, I wouldn't be getting another horse for a long time. A few hours later I took the ad down. It took almost 6 months for us to be able to work together, and be comfortable. I will have had her for a year in May, and now we are inseparable.
My advice is to work through it. I gave myself the rule that; if in a year we still weren't working together very well, I would sell her. So give her a year and continuously work on her, work on walk for a month. Then trot for a month. Then work on slowing her lope for a month. Work on ground work, get her to respect YOU. Take as much time as you need. If after a year you guys still aren't working out, then maybe look into things and consider if it is worth the time. I think if you take the time to work with her, and give it a year. Things will work out.
Don't get your mind set on selling her just yet. The only reason you should sell her is if she is a danger to you. If she is going to hurt you purposely, then yes maybe you should look into selling her. If she isn't trying to purposely hurt you, find a trainer and have them work with you two. Maybe go to her old owner and ask what her little quirks are. Maybe the way you are riding is telling her to GO. See what you can learn about her. Go sit in pasture for a few hours and observe her. Get to know her. It will benefit you both greatly.
Trust me it is worth it.
I won't be stopped. I can't be stopped.