Originally Posted by Heleen Strydom
We live on a farm and I have had my warmblood mare for about two years now. She hadn't got ridden for a while because of some complications with my pregnancy. During this time I handled her every day - I groomed her and took her for walks on a lead rope. When I got the thumbs up from my doctor I was so exited to get back into riding. But...
She just refuses to go forward! She stops when she decided she had gone far enough and then bucks a lot to get rid of me. This was never a problem before, and I really believed we had special bond.
How do I stop this stubborn behaviour? I've tried rewards, treats, sweet talking, even hitting! HELP!
She has had a one year vacation and is not too keen on leaving the "good life" and going back to work.
And the rewards and treats have not worked because she probably did nothing to really earn them, thus they are bribes, and bribes rarely work (except to "lure" a horse into a trailer or out of a paddock or such, and even then , they do not cure the problem).
Bond has nothing to do with this. Your horse thinks you have a bond, too, and that the bond consists of her standing near you, maybe following you on a leadline and getting treats. She is confused as to why any of that should change.
Since she is bucking when you apply the whip, and since you are a parent of a small child, you would be smart to get a trainer or a sharp rider to get on her and get her going forward, regardless of the bucks. The bucking will probably stop when she gives up the idea that she should be able to stop when she wants. You, or the trainer, has to change her mind as to who's the boss and what her job is.