Originally Posted by Heleen Strydom
She nibbles at T's neck with her lips - to T's great delight!
I've tried some ground work today, only to leave in tears. A trainer is unfortunately not an option since the nearest one is about 200km from me. Maybe I'm doing something wrong... Any tips on ground work then???
Firstly, as 'loving' as your horse may be with your daughter, PLEASE do not let the horse do things like that!!! Even 'lovingly', horses nip eachother, as well as nuzzling - & a nip to your daughter, let alone on her neck will be a lot less 'loving' than it is to another horse! Please keep safety first & foremost in mind with your horse & daughter! I know you wouldn't knowingly put her in danger, but remember what big animals they are & that they can (even lovingly, unmeaning) do serious damage in a heartbeat!
Regarding your 'groundwork', what have you done/tried? What's happening? Sounds like if you have no one good to help you - always the best option IMO - you could do well from a 'package' approach, such as Clinton Anderson(don't know his stuff personally but others think good), Parelli or such. Watch DVDs, read books on horse behaviour & training principles, and take your time.
I know you're excited about getting back into riding, but sounds like you need to slow down, step back... Also know that things can change getting back to it after kids, mentally and physically! So another reason I suggest you don't just expect to pick up where you left off, work on where you're both at now, not where you were a year ago.