It's been about 8 months since I started working with horses. In that time I've noticed a lot of horse people seem to enjoy looking down their noses and people who know less than them...
...Are there a lot of particularly opinionated and judgmental horse people? Are boarding barns super cliq-ish and nasty? Is it a stuck up arrogant thing or is there some style war going on between different schools of thought and training or both?
I guess I'd say people in general can be like that. My personal opinion is there is not a larger percentage of unkind people among horse people, but new people probably notice them more because a new person is a draw for unkind people. Kind of like a new kid in school will draw interest from bullies. Even on this forum I've seen people ganging up on others.
When it comes to boarding barns, I consider the culture of the people there when I think about if I would fit in. I'm not the type that wants to hang around very competitive people who are trying to prove something to each other. But you can find barns where people are casual and ride for fun, or where they are trying to focus on horsemanship, or even kind of (not to be insulting) "hippie" barns.
Of course everyone believes their way of riding and training is correct, and it may not be a style war but maybe people talking about what they know either to share, or to affirm whether their own beliefs are correct or not. Or they might just feel better about their own insecurities if they can tell you where they think you are going wrong.
If you were to ask me about your video, I'd want to hear about your horse, where he came from and where you came from, what his personality is like (seems a congenial and forgiving type) and what your goals are. I'd ask about what kind of instruction you are getting, and give you some tips for safety and about assessing your horse and how he is doing with your riding and tack. I'd encourage you to discuss what, why and how you are using the type of head gear on the horse. I'd talk about what, why and how you are using this particular saddle on the horse.
If I were just watching you riding in my own barn, I'd find a way to talk to you and give you some tips to ride a little more safely and communicate better with your horse. Then hopefully you'd want to come out and ride with me and learn even more.