He sounds like a big sweetheart. Why is your family against a donkey?
My husband used to be against them, but I talked him into a large donkey (mammoth stock, but barely height-wise) a quite a few years ago and we just loved that long ears. He wasn't gelded when we got him, so that was done then as a 6 year old and he was sweet as could be and fit in well with our herd. Unfortunately I had to sell him a couple years back when I was laid off.
Now we have a mini donkey in with our two mini mares and we just adore her.