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post #11 of 24 Old 07-05-2014, 11:26 PM Thread Starter
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Nope :( Its just the 3 of them there so they all stay together. Hopefully carrying a whip will work, just want to wait till she doesnt have a bunch of family visiting for the holiday and stuff...Don't want kids to think I'm killing the donkey
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post #12 of 24 Old 07-06-2014, 12:05 AM
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Can you catch her and tie her up first, then get your horse, take him out, then untie her? I would try carrying a whip too.
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post #13 of 24 Old 07-06-2014, 03:11 PM
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If I felt I was in danger all 'h' would break loose on this donkey with a whip don't let him intimidate you take the offensive all he needs to learn is he's not the one making the decisions
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post #14 of 24 Old 07-06-2014, 03:46 PM
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I think part of the problem with the whip will be that you have to be really careful with Dex (OP's horse). If you went out there going after the donkey it might really bother Dex? Then you would have two problems.

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post #15 of 24 Old 07-06-2014, 06:32 PM
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I think it's terrible that the BO won't take responsibility for her donkey and fix this. Why should you have to train her donkey to lay off? Seems like you might be better off somewhere else if that's an option.
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post #16 of 24 Old 07-06-2014, 07:17 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by ecasey View Post
I think it's terrible that the BO won't take responsibility for her donkey and fix this. Why should you have to train her donkey to lay off? Seems like you might be better off somewhere else if that's an option.
Well, she would LIKE to do something, just doesn't know what or how. She grew up riding, then a few years ago bought a house with some land and adopted her paint and the donkey. The paint is a dead broke saint and the donkey she got at 6 months old. She just doesn't have the knowledge to fix the issue. At least she's willing to let me try working with her.
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post #17 of 24 Old 07-06-2014, 08:53 PM
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Dang Evilamc - what a pain in the butt of a donkey! I don't have any experience with Donkeys but a little training may go a long way. She is cute though!

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Well today I brought my dressage whip out with me. First I tried hitting the ground, then started tapping her..lightly at first and gradually increasing until I got some type of response. I had to whack her so hard before she would even attempt to shift her weight! I rewarded her effort though then started again. I could never get her to do more then just slightly shift her weight!! I finally had it and just started really hitting the ground hard and that finally made her back up off us. Of course as soon as we were at gate to leave she comes running up to crowd us...I have her one good whack and that made her go away. I feel terrible but it's the only thing that's worked :(
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post #19 of 24 Old 07-10-2014, 08:30 AM
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Hi Evi!

Is this donkey actually running at you??? Or just coming up to you and being in your face because it wants attention from you?

I am asking this because when a donkey wants attention from you, it will come up close and personal. Donkeys have a very different sense of personal space to horses, or humans. You can see this when donkeys interact with each other - bonded donkeys literally live in each others' pockets. We have three donkeys who, when they want something, will crowd together in a row, side by side, touching shoulder to backside, and crane their necks at us making pitiful noises. They did the same when we lived in a caravan in their paddock for a few months and they wanted vegetable scraps - all three heads and necks would come through the door together. Horses would never do that, they'd chase each other off!

Whenever our little blind donkey wants a scratch or a social interaction, she comes right on up to me and (gently) burrows her head and neck into me. She will stand like that for quite some time. Donkeys are funny animals, very touchy-feely compared to horses, and much more sociable - this really surprised us when we first got donkeys.

Whenever I cut the donkeys' hooves, the other donkeys will stand right around me and the donkey being trimmed, preferably touching me and each other. Little Sparkle does this even when I trim horses! She will slowly sniff my face while I am working, and even the hoof I am trimming:

I can move her aside with her halter, and as long as she is still able to touch another part of me or the horse, she will happily accept this. She is less enthusiastic about giving up contact altogether. I think it's in their nature to be like this, and it generally doesn't cause us any problems with our lot - they are so gentle.

So there may be some of that applying to your case as well. But, is she actually head-butting you, hurting you, threatening to kick?
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Sue said exactly what I was going to say - are you mistaking attention seeking for aggression?

My donkey will ALWAYS come up to me for a hug or a withers rub when I am doing with the horses in the field. If he's feeling more loving (or more lonely - I'm not sure which) he will lean into me. Donkeys are different from horses and it's easy to misinterpret their actions.

I second the suggestion to halter him up first. I also suggest that you have a session or two grooming him. He will love you forever for that - and then, assuming that this is NOT aggression, you should be able to just shove him out of the way when he is getting in the way.
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