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post #1 of 15 Old 05-22-2012, 07:26 AM Thread Starter
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Been given a week to live.

I took my eldest cat BigBoy to the vets yeserday after noticing he was losing condition and weight. He's an elder cat, been with me since I was a little kid so I have been wondering how much longer he would have... But I took him to the vets fearing the worst and the moment the vet felt hi, all over, the moment she got to his stomach she said 'uhoh' out loud, I knew it wasnt good.
He either has a massive tumour or cist in his stomach which is slowly starving him and she gave us a few options. We had the option to get a cat scan, see what it is and whether it was operable but due to the fact he's old, he's already lost quite a bit of condition already and it would all in all be a serious operation, the chances of survival are slim so we've decided the best thing was to bring him home. So atm he's slightly uncomfortable, not sleeping too well but enough, he's eating better then yesterday, his eyes are still sunken in and he's having trouble lying down(it takes him awhile to get down). We are watching him like a hawk but the vets said he's probably only got this week left until it'll get too uncomfortable and we'll have to put him down. Now this is the worst time ever, the weekend is my birthday and last year my favourite little guineapig died the night before my birthday so atm im freaking out. BigBoys been in my life for so long the idea of now hearing his purs, not feeling his soft beautiful snowwhite fur under my fingers terrifies me and honestly im scared I don't know what to do. Im trying to make this week special but I don't know how to except for being with him, telling him I love him, patting him, rubbing his favuorite spots, brushing him, calling him by his nickname(bubba). He's my man who sits on my feet, keeps them warm at night, wakes me up in the middle of the night because im taking up too much of 'his' bed and 'his' pillow. When the time comes, I don't even know if i'm strong enough to go with them to put him asleep. I'm crying as I write this is the worst feeling in the world. How do you drive to the vets with your family to kill them? He's my family, he's my best friend. One week feels like nothing. Its like im counting the hours. Right now he's curled up beside my leg, trying to sleep, his fur that used to be neat splayed in every direction. How do you say goodbye to a family member. Imm sorry if noone wanted to hear this, I just really needed to say it to someone as none of my friends understand, they think he's just a replaceable cat. But he's more then anything to me :'(

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post #2 of 15 Old 05-22-2012, 07:29 AM
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Oh my goodness I'm so sorry!! That's so devastating :( :(

At least you get a week with him until he goes to a place full of mice to chase all day and never ending belly rubs.

*hugs*

It hurts, I know.. you've got a lot of people here supporting you through this difficult time. I know you will miss him so much and he will miss you but you're doing what's best for him and he'll always live on in your heart <3

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post #3 of 15 Old 05-22-2012, 07:38 AM Thread Starter
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The worst part is I don't know if I can go with him to the vets to say goodbye. Part of me wants to let my parents do it so I don't have to be there but part of me doesnt want to let him down by not being there. My last animal that go put down was a guineapig as well she was so alone when she got put down as I was in hospital at the time with spinal surgery and found out a few days after the op that she was put to sleep while I was out of it. I regret it so much. I just don't know what to do

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post #4 of 15 Old 05-22-2012, 07:40 AM Thread Starter
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Heres a pic of im at christmas. His last christmas he'll ever have and I didnt even know it ':(

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The worst part is I don't know if I can go with him to the vets to say goodbye. Part of me wants to let my parents do it so I don't have to be there but part of me doesnt want to let him down by not being there. My last animal that go put down was a guineapig as well she was so alone when she got put down as I was in hospital at the time with spinal surgery and found out a few days after the op that she was put to sleep while I was out of it. I regret it so much. I just don't know what to do
He's such a beautiful cat <3 And do what you think is best. If you want to be there, then be there. If it's too much, then you don't have to be there. He won't be upset, because he knows how much you love him. He'll probably thank you for doing the right thing for him, despite all the pain.
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Awww, he's lovely!! Cherish that picture.

I had a cat named Mike for 15 years. He was my buddy and I loved him like crazy. We had to put him down for something similar and my mom actually took him to the vet without telling me. When I got home, I was devastated. I always regretted not being there with him while he passed, so if I were you, I would go! Hold him until he's gone, and press your face into that white fur of his. He knows you love him and this is the kindest thing you can do for him.
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So sorry to hear that, Tayz. Knowing that the end is near for a beloved pet is so, so hard.

I had to make that call last summer with my 16 yr old dog. I'd had her since high school. I was an absolute basket case taking her in and being with her, my vet's techs had to help me stand and cried uncontrollably right along with me, one of the girls even drove us home. As hard as it was though, I am so glad that I went to say goodbye and be with her while she crossed rainbow bridge.

If it were me, I'd go. It's going to be unbearably hard but the regret of not being there could be equally as hard. My thoughts are with you no matter what you decide.

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Tayz, I'm so sorry for you and BigBoy. As others stated , go if you feel you want to or can, but don't beat yourself up if you can't.

I've always been there with my pets, and will be with my horses when the time comes, as that is what I've promised at the beginning. I will be with them at the end. But like MHF Quarters stated, it can be very difficult. Like her, I cried (not something I do, believe me), and felt like such a Judas all the way home. It's not the part of pet ownership/responsibility that we want to think about, but it is a part of it.

Make the most of the time you have with him. I believe, through what I've witnessed with mine, that they know when they need to cross over, and are not afraid of it. In two cases, they seemed relieved that the pain and suffering was to end.

I'm keeping you and BigBoy in my thoughts today. Hugs to you both.

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I'm so sorry.

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post #10 of 15 Old 05-22-2012, 09:49 AM
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Tayz, I'm sorry to hear about your boy. I know it will be heartbreaking but just remember that he loves you now and will always love you. I too have one that, when the time comes, with be the breaker of my back.

It's the ones that we loves the most that hurt the worst.
Keep your chin up for him. I know it may be difficult for you and him, but makes it seem as normal as possible. He gets fed the same time in the morning, whatever of rituals he has, let him have them. He'll appreciate that more than you could ever imagine.

And when it's time, it's time. He'll be there for you, and you for him. There will always be that bond between the two of you that no one will ever hold again.

I wish you luck and hopefully he will want to hang around for your birthday and eat some cake with you.

Don't go this alone, we're here for you. :)
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