As to how much I get involved or ??? Neighbors about 3 houses down from me signed up to be a host family for a foreign exchange student from Germany. Little background on them... they seem to always have money problems, have refinanced themselves into more debt than their house is worth. Have dogs that are not 100% house trained, have two boys one that is autistic and the other add but improving. The boys are 9 and 11. The parents cuss and fight a lot... sometimes we can hear them here!
The foreign exchange student was picked for their family. He is a Junior in high school and is the same age as my daughter. She drives him to school and he loves me. I have become his confidant and he feels very close to me. (This is what he has told my daughter)
Last night he came to my house and and asked if he could use my phone, the house phone where he stays in cordless and been left off the hook. Oh well don't know why I had to fill you in on that little detail. He asked me for a hug and he started to cry. I asked him to join us for dinner (we were going out for Mexican) and after we returned home he asked if he could just come in and talk to me (daughter had to return to school for pep band) He proceeded to tell me how unhappy he is with his host family. He said he knows they are trying but it is not a good fit for him. He said he wished he had gotten a "normal" family like mine. I am not prepared to take on another child. Nor have I been approved to be a host family. But he feels the need to leave this family and probably even this school as he feels very pressured there. Our principal is a piece of work ... that being said the young man is here to learn our lifestyles etc. His grades from this year do not count when he returns to Munich he will be a Junior at his school again. But due to the slang causing barriers he is not an A student here and feels like a failure.
My heart breaks for this young man. This morning when he came into the house he asked me if I could meet with him and his adviser on Sunday to discuss moving host families. He is very concerned about hurting the neighbors feelings and wants me to talk to his adviser first with him before they go the the host family.
What in the world do I do... this young man is so far from home... he loves my family and myself. I can not financially afford to add him into my home but yet how can I not... and maybe it is not even an option as he would have to go to an approved home and I don't know how long that takes. My family had a background check two years ago when the state placed my abused 17 year old nephew with us but that was only a 10 week stay till he turned 18
Any advice would be very welcome!