So I've been working with kids for a long time (helped out with childcare at different functions since I was ten or so - I'm sixteen now) but haven't babysat that much until now.
Last night I babysat for a really nice family who has two kids - a little boy who is one and a little girl who just turned three. Normally, I have very few problems with them - the occasional "that's mine" and stuff but nothing major. Also want to establish that I'm not a pushover with kids, and when I say something, I mean business. The little boy went to bed with no problem, but the little girl it was a rough night.
I went through her bedtime routine like her mom had told me, but as soon as I went to put her to bed, she absolutely refused. I sat in the room with her, listening to her protests of "I'm not tired! I'm not tired! I can't go to sleep!"
I tried praying and reading with her. I called my own mom and had her talk to her about obeying and listening. I tried leaving her and putting her back into bed when she got up, and repeated this a bunch of times, only succeeding in waking up the little boy who shares her room. Eventually, I called her mom and had her talk to her, and she still wouldn't listen. Finally, it was two hours past her bedtime and we just had to decide on letting her stay up until they came home
There were consequenses for her behavior and they did reinforce the fact that when I was there, I was in charge.
I felt horrible that I had to bother them on a date night when they should have been enjoying themselves, and the mom came in crying because she felt so bad that the girl was misbehaving for me. They are great parents and I really felt awful for not being able to handle it myself. It has sort of made me lose my babysitting confidence that I can't get simple tasks like that done.
The biggest problem I had was that she knew that what she was doing was wrong. We literally had this conversation:
Me: Is not going to bed when you're told to obedient or disobedient?
Me: Are you making the right choice or the wrong choice right now?
Her: The wrong choice.
Me: Do we need to listen and obey when someone tells us what to do?
Me: So why aren't you doing what I asked?
Her: Because I'm not tired!
(At this point I am ready to cry)
So next time I go, I am going to do the she gets up/I put her back in bed thing again more persistently. I refuse to be intimidated by a three year old
Any other ideas on how to get her to listen and obey when she is told to go to bed? Not only then, but whenever I tell her to do something? She can be pretty headstrong but I've never had to deal with something like this before from her.
Thanks in advance!