Originally Posted by Maple
Something I have found very annoying, and maybe it's the cultural difference from what I grew up with compared to where I live, is that nearly anybody I have spoken to has told me that I should tell my child to hit the other one back! When I tell them I don't want my child to retaliate with violence, they have all said it's the only way to sort it. Whatever happened to "two wrongs don't make a right" and "violence is not the answer"? That I'm going to have to deal with.
The thing is, bullies don't understand anything but violence. They don't get the bits about being nice and all that. They understand weak and strong. Why do you think there's so many stories of children learning martial arts, self defense or just flat out getting in a sucker punch? Because it works. It shuts the door on all bullying and doesn't leave room for the bully to go about it in a new way. Why do you think it's always the shy ones, the small ones, the fat ones, etc that are picked on? They're picked out as weak.
Not that I'm advocating violence. If it comes to blows your child should be able to hold her own. Count me in among those who beat up their bully and got it to stop though.
These days I'm more a make a scene person. Call the cops, get the local news involved and call a lawyer. No more school meetings - why bother? They're not helping. I think you should escalate before that bratty child does. Posted via Mobile Device