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        10-20-2012, 05:41 PM
      #81
    Trained
    Peppers, just have to say I feel for you on the out on training thing... my husband was in Iraq when our youngest was born.

    You CAN tell the hospital you only want certain visitors and at certain times if you so choose and your sister becomes that big of an issue. I did that with my last as I didn't want people coming and visiting me while my husband was gone and trying to "sympathize" that he was gone, plus at that point I was about to the point of having restraining orders against his family. Thank all that is holy they pulled their heads out of their butts since then.

    On the circ thing... all three of my boys were done. It did not interfere with bonding or nursing. As for the drugs, I didn't notice any problems with bonding with having the pain killers... Lol except for the little while I was on morphine after my youngest (had a tubal within four hours of delivery... I apparently held a conversation with a lamp when I got back to my room husband was going to have a vasectomy if he hadn't of been deployed. He wasn't happy with me having a tubal since it was more invasive than his surgery would have been). I do have to say in my case I the epidurals helped... A LOT. I wasn't progressing with labor with any of them due to being to tense and in pain due to all the contractions being felt in my back (and I have scoliosis), once I my water had broken and they were able to give the epidurals, I was able to relax and was dilated quickly.

    I do hope that you can follow your birth plan, but do remember those are there IF you end up wanting or needing them. Don't have to use them.

    Okay now that I have rambled enough I think I will go wander back to my normal forum sections
         
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        10-20-2012, 06:00 PM
      #82
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by NdAppy    
    Peppers, just have to say I feel for you on the out on training thing... my husband was in Iraq when our youngest was born.

    You CAN tell the hospital you only want certain visitors and at certain times if you so choose and your sister becomes that big of an issue. I did that with my last as I didn't want people coming and visiting me while my husband was gone and trying to "sympathize" that he was gone, plus at that point I was about to the point of having restraining orders against his family. Thank all that is holy they pulled their heads out of their butts since then.

    On the circ thing... all three of my boys were done. It did not interfere with bonding or nursing. As for the drugs, I didn't notice any problems with bonding with having the pain killers... Lol except for the little while I was on morphine after my youngest (had a tubal within four hours of delivery... I apparently held a conversation with a lamp when I got back to my room husband was going to have a vasectomy if he hadn't of been deployed. He wasn't happy with me having a tubal since it was more invasive than his surgery would have been). I do have to say in my case I the epidurals helped... A LOT. I wasn't progressing with labor with any of them due to being to tense and in pain due to all the contractions being felt in my back (and I have scoliosis), once I my water had broken and they were able to give the epidurals, I was able to relax and was dilated quickly.

    I do hope that you can follow your birth plan, but do remember those are there IF you end up wanting or needing them. Don't have to use them.

    Okay now that I have rambled enough I think I will go wander back to my normal forum sections
    If he were deploying it would be a different story as that's understandable...still hard as hell but understandable... He hasnt even been back from his last deployment for a year yet..and with his ETS not being that far away ( 2 years) he would have to extend time in service in order to be deployed again (after his dwell time is over and whatnot)..which he is not willing to do.. He is a mechanic/welder so there is NOTHING for him to do as there isnt much equipment out there..so he will be essentially sitting around..

    ^ If he missed the birth of our son for something like this^^^ I will be soo mad!!

    As for pain meds, I have an open mind to them! I'm going to go natural if I feel like I can handle the pains of labor but I wont hesitate to get pain relief if I need it:) Oddly I'm not at all (like literally AT ALL)nervous to giving birth- I find that really strange as friends in the same boat are TERRIFIED... I know its going to hurt like hell and I have accepted that fact..
         
        10-20-2012, 06:25 PM
      #83
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    Everyone gives so much advice about birthing, and babie, it's hard to winnow out what is helpful and what isn't.

    I can tell you not to stress too much about the "bond" with the baby being at risk by things like having pain meds, or some trouble nursing or whatever. Babies are very flexible and they want to bond, and you do too, so not much can keep you apart.

    But, it's also way more stressful than you can actually imagine right now. So, if you have even one more person making demands of you, it can feel overwhelming. If your sister brings more weight with her than her presence will take off your shoulders, then ask her not to come until your husband is there, and you are a bit more used to being a mom. Your mother in law might be the better birth partner if husband is deployed.
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        10-20-2012, 06:27 PM
      #84
    Trained
    Oh I know the training is a PITA. My husband was gone twice this year for training, well auditing a new training program, and they are already planning multiple times for him to be gone next year. My hubby's a lifer though.

    I was more nervous I was going to go into labor and give birth to my third son before anyone could get me to the hospital (home alone with two small boys and 20+ miles from the hospital... )
         
        10-20-2012, 10:33 PM
      #85
    Banned
    I lived my first 25 years in the UK, and the last 11 in the US.

    I can honestly tell you that I have never met a man who was not thrilled with his penis! Men in the UK, circ'ed think they have the best appendage in the world, as do those here, who are not circ'ed.

    Unless there was a health reason (which is pretty unlikely) I don't see any reason why a man would opt to circ later. There's just no need.
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