Our children today are so coddled and parents try to be friends first and parent last. My adage is my kids have friends their own age. I am the parent and the only one who will teach them as a parent. There is always time to be a friend to your kids later in life.
I have already said my kids are 31 and 16 and both are wonderful kids. Son lived with his dad after he was 13 so I didn't live first hand with him as a teenager to know how he was but his dad always told me he appreciated what a great job I did with him as he was no trouble there.
My daughter has never had the divorce issue handed to her. Husband and I have been together for 22 years. She is the easiest child to raise ever! Straight A student...every teacher she has ever had has told me they wished they could clone her. Over heard once in class by her biology teacher telling a student she was not sitting there to visit but to learn. She is very dedicated to her horse and would rather spend time with them at the barn the going to the party with the booze. She is mature far beyond her years... and I am very blessed. I love her and we are friends earlier than most but I am still her parent first!