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post #11 of 21 Old 05-03-2013, 08:38 AM
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Alex, that has tears in my eyes just from reading it! Those other parents need a serious pat on the back for their efforts (and you as well obviously!).

It is always fantastic to hear stories like this, when there is so much doom-and-gloom elsewhere. Moments like these remind us of why we are all here.

Stop for a minute, open your mind, learn. You may not agree with what I say, I may not agree with what you say but we will both learn something new.
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post #12 of 21 Old 05-03-2013, 08:48 AM
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I have tears in my eyes and chills. And I'm in a bit of a contentious teleconference talking about budget cuts whilst I'm reading this.

Talk about a grounding experience...thank you for sharing! I so realize again that work is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

What lovely lovely people!

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post #13 of 21 Old 05-03-2013, 11:50 AM Thread Starter
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I have even better news. We got a call last night someone asking to speak to kid 1, so I passed him the phone. Of course all he said was 'great thanks' and was about to hang up, so I took the phone.

There's a summer league for baseball, organized by one of the parents, and kid 1 has made the team.
The best part, they have waived the $250 cost for him, all I have to do is buy him either white or grey pants, as he has everything else.

Kid 1 is the only black player on the team, I've always wondered if there is any kind of racism from the other parents, or resentment as I bring the bad kids to their school - now I know there is not, and they are good people.
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post #14 of 21 Old 05-03-2013, 09:49 PM
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Oh really? That's great. What types of kids are you planning to take?
We said newborns up to late elementary ages(10-ish) for now. We were thinking we'd be open to older kids as we get more skills under our belt. I did say if they had any horse-crazy kids, I'd be all over that though.
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post #15 of 21 Old 05-03-2013, 10:05 PM Thread Starter
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We said newborns up to late elementary ages(10-ish) for now. We were thinking we'd be open to older kids as we get more skills under our belt. I did say if they had any horse-crazy kids, I'd be all over that though.
I take the 13s and up, but it's rare I get less than a 15 year old, as most won't take the older ones. Usually 16-21.

Warning, I have no personal experience of the 7-10s but I hear they are hard. They've been rejected enough, and have no perspective on life, that they test all foster parents to see if they can make them kick them out.

Best wishes to you, and thank you for taking the little ones, I couldn't give them back up. I believe there is a place for everyone in the world and you have my respect for giving up the younguns, I couldn't do that.

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post #16 of 21 Old 05-03-2013, 10:26 PM
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Wow. Just wow.

And it's amazing that "Kid1" didn't completely freak out over it either. He was stunned, but he didn't rebel or shrink away. Good for him and good for you for providing the initial support he needed to be able to be where he is.
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post #17 of 21 Old 05-03-2013, 10:29 PM
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Thanks Alex! People keep telling us we are nuts for wanting the wee babies but I can't help it, they are too cute, and I'm a semi-insomniac night owl anyway, so its not like I sleep much to begin with.
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Wow. Just wow.

And it's amazing that "Kid1" didn't completely freak out over it either. He was stunned, but he didn't rebel or shrink away. Good for him and good for you for providing the initial support he needed to be able to be where he is.
He missed his first strike, eyes massive just looking at me. Cute.



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Thanks Alex! People keep telling us we are nuts for wanting the wee babies but I can't help it, they are too cute, and I'm a semi-insomniac night owl anyway, so its not like I sleep much to begin with.
Yea I think you are nuts, if I ever had a baby I couldn't give them up. If you can do that, you are a better person than I am. If you think you can, you have my respect. For me, I can give the kids up as they are all about to get their own apartment, I couldn't give up a lil one.

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Support is always welcome. I sent you a friend req. On FB last night.

We are aiming for foster-to-adopt, but are open to just fostering as well. I think that giving up a little one will be hard, but I just feel so drawn to the wee ones. There is also a need in our area right now for preK and younger kids for some odd reason, so I was happy to volunteer. We do have an awesome sounding mentoring program here though, for kids who for whatever reason have chosen to not be in a foster home or do not want to be adopted, and we have told our worker we definitely want to be in that program. It's more of a Foster Aunt or Uncle thing, rather than a parent. These kids are either in group homes or college aged, and just need an adult figure to talk to about life, or a place to go for holidays etc. I liked the idea of helping someone out in a different way than fostering.
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That's awesome Ity. I restrict some people from seeing things on FB about the kids, but I just accepted you unrestricted, so you can see all the stories etc.
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