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        06-25-2014, 04:33 PM
      #11
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by TessaMay    
    I was homeschooled and did not like it, especially for older ages. I wish I had been put into public school for high school at least, but I didn't have a choice in the matter.

    I do think it is an ok thing to do when your child is younger though. I personally had some learning disabilities when I was younger cause by over-sensitivity to light that were hard to diagnose and I wouldn't have done well in a public school situation, would have ended up behind at least a year. So in my younger years, it was a very good thing.

    The biggest thing that sets me against homeschooling is the way I've seen others who I was homeschooled with turn out. I was in a homeschool co-op for much of my time: we'd meet once a week for classes mostly taught by parents and we would be sent home with homework for the entire week. In general this system worked well (or should have), the problem was with the people who ran and participated in the co-op.

    This was a Christian-based co-op and I have only ever known Christian families who have homeschooled. I'm sure there are non-Christians who do it, but I have never known one. We were taught strictly Christian views (generally conservative) and nothing else. History and science were therefore very one-sided and skewed as well as other subjects. The one time a "sex ed" class was offered the students were set up with a video about sexually transmitted diseases and then the part about using condoms or other birth control was fast forwarded through. You were not allowed to date anyone in a co-op and hanging out with anyone of the opposite sex meant you were very closely watched.

    There were very few kids who came out of this co-op in a well-adjusted way, the majority did one of two things: stayed very "homeschooled", sheltered and clung hard to their conservative Christian beliefs or they went a bit nuts after leaving, either parting like crazy (and very unsafely because they had never experienced anything like that before and had never been taught how to be safe in such situations because parents thought that if they avoided such subjects their kids would just avoid them for life) or had huge depression/mental issues.

    I guess in the end what it comes down to is how you homeschool and teach your children. I'm sure someone could do well going all the way through school homeschooled, but it would take a special parent and child set up (not saying that you aren't that).
    As someone who is not religious and had to go through a religious schooling program I can second the part on how hard it can be once kids hit 'real life' and don't know what to do, or if they get into college and they do not know the 'correct' answers to certain history/ science questions.

    My mom thankfully augmented my education to include freethinking and correct science. It just didn't get written down on the test papers that had to be completed to pass onto the next segment of PACES.

    The biggest drawback was not getting to go to prom, that has stuck with me even until now (I'm 26). If you can ensure your child gets a balanced and fair education and that they don't miss out on any of the 'memories' then you'll do fine.
         
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        06-25-2014, 04:52 PM
      #12
    Foal
    I didn't read all the post, so I may be repeating what someone else has said.

    I was homeschooled my entire life... I enjoyed it and was able to study specific interests as part of my school. I graduated last year.

    Socialization wasn't an issue, we were active in local homeschool groups and activities, as well as church activities.

    We did alot of stuff that if public or private schooled would not of had the opportunity to do. I'm one of 8 kids and I think they'll all tell you they wouldn't want it any other way. ;)
         
        06-30-2014, 04:02 PM
      #13
    Showing
    I've seen kids homeschooled for religious reasons and watched as they either succumbed to the repressive control or broke loose and it was party time. I've watched the repressed ones marry the "right" one, whom the family has to approve of and she has to be of their religion. There is no happiness in their eyes.
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        06-30-2014, 04:03 PM
      #14
    Green Broke
    Just be sure to expose them to lots of different things, to avoid the outcome listed above (:
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        06-30-2014, 06:08 PM
      #15
    Teen Forum Moderator
    I guess that I defied the eyes on that one then, saddlebag. So did many (not all) of my friends. I was homeschooled so that, in part, I could be taught christian values, but also because I am dyslexic\dyscalculic and have an autoimmune disease that kept me sick for years. Yet somehow, I ended up being a well rounded citizen. I am happy, socialized, and glad I was raises the way that I was.

    OP, like many others, I am a homeschooler who loved the route I took. I was homeschooled the entire time and graduated this May. Because my curriculum could be tailored to my needs, I surpassed expectations given my disabilities, and worked year round to stay at the top. And as crazy as it sounds...my mom isnt even a good teacher. She is also dyscalculic and only graduated high school. My dad has an associates degree. Yet somehow I finished with a 4.0 GPA, I am in the honors society, and I've gotten multiple scholarships for academic success. NOT because I or my patents are geniuses but because we found outside supplementation for what they couldn't help me with. I took science and math with a group called PREP in highschool, and joined a co op for my electives and group things like speech andnspabish. Then my junior year, I started dual credit. As crazy as it sounds to many, I had no problem fitting in at all. Because of my co op and prep, I knew how to work in groups. I know how to talk and lead. In fact, somehow I am always nominated to lead the group.....yay. People are surprised to hear that I was homeschooled because I don't wear mile long blue jean skirts and don't have fringe bangs and glasses.LOL. I'm going into my freshman year with 17 credits. I know just as much about evolution as anyone...I just choose to argue against it in favor of another theory. One thing homeschooling taught me, is that what majority votes is t always the right choice. I think for myself.

    That said, there ARE cons. For one, people will always ask you or your kid why you home school.they may be teased. I was at first. And yes, you have to actively srekvout friends rather than being handed them on a platter. I struggled with this in middle school but quickly got on my feet and starting going out to find friends. Also, if your kid is no t self motivated you may have trouble. I was, my siblings were not. That makes things a little tougher on you as a parent. Homeschooling isn't for everyone. Neither is public school. Lastly, you have to know when to let your kid experience things for his or herself and trust their own judgment. The 'going crazy ' everyone mentioned s from patentsnwho don't prepare their kids for the real world. My Mom could have done better at that, admittedly.

    Reach out to your community. I bet you can find a few homeschoolers who will talk to you. Most people are very willing to share knowledge. Just remember, there are all kinds of homeschoolers, and all kinds of public schoolers. You ate bound to meet a few wackos as you go, but don't think we are all crazy!
         
        07-01-2014, 06:56 PM
      #16
    Foal
    Endiku mentioned teasing. I never really got teased (not saying you won't though) In fact alot of the kids that were public schooled I talked to wished they were homeshcooled.
         
        07-01-2014, 07:43 PM
      #17
    Teen Forum Moderator
    I don't think it's incredibly common...just possible :) and I really wasn't teased by people calling me a loser or anything. It was more of them constantly asking me if I friends (um...yes? I thought you were my friend? LOL) and if I ever feel lazy since clearly as a homeschooler I do not have to work hard and I'm just handed A's.

    BTW sorry for the typo up ^ there. I meant defied the ODDs, not eyes. Hahaha
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        07-02-2014, 03:01 PM
      #18
    Foal
    Yah, one time I was with a girl and told her I was homeschooled and she said "but you don't have any friends!" and I was like "yah, I do". LOL!
         
        07-05-2014, 10:47 PM
      #19
    Green Broke
    Two of my close friends were homeschooled, and I've known a few others.

    Both of them ended up going to final two years at public schools, I guess due to the more specialist teaching.

    They both had difficulties fitting into systems. This has translated beyond school into work and social life. The idea of recognising that things need to be done in a certain way just doesn't seem to work with them. They're less adaptable and less "savvy" of the. One seems to form very close attachments with friends, somewhat reminiscent of family dynamics which can be difficult. Both have grown distant of their families. I know a couple of others, although not as intimately, that have had a similar result.

    I used to think homeschooling was pretty cool. As a kid I had a real tough time in school, and I would have loved to be homeschooled. I thought school was the worse thing that ever happened to me.

    But now school is over, and I have all the skills I learned. The knowledge is secondary, dealing with people day in and day out that I don't want to, managing conflicts and systems, well that's something that is invaluable and has helped me a lot in life.

    With kids I guess you kind of want to protect them from the world, but when they grow up they have to live in the world, and not giving them the best skills they can get isn't all that fair, in my opinion. School replicates society on a miniature scale. Society is what adults have to deal with, and it gives people so many options.

    I'm sure for many people homeschooling works, I've only observed a handful of circumstances but in my experience and opinion I've seen people being less prepared, less adaptable, less able in some situations.

    I do tend to think five is very young though to go to school full time, I'd maybe even consider in the future, when the situation arises for me, keeping kids homeschooled a couple of years, maybe until they're seven or so. I don't know.

    I don't know, just my two cents!
         
        07-06-2014, 09:37 AM
      #20
    Foal
    I have homeschooled my boys since the very beginning. They are now 9 and 11. Both are very advanced academically (older just completed a challenging Algebra course and younger reads at a 12th grade level). We love the flexibility (DH and I are both self-employed) and the chance to talk about many things at a deeper level, follow their interests, have more time as a family...an no homework :)

    THat said, I do have some concerns about my older. He is entering 7th grade next year and the school we are zoned for is NOT good. Ow we might consider sending him, simply for the experience of being aroudn other kids in a classroom setting, learning how to navigate the educational experience on his own, etc. Part of him wants to go to school, another part recognizes that the school is truly awful, academically and socially, and doesn't want any part of it.

    High school may be more of an option for him. There is a specialized math and sciences magnet school near us that we have been eyeing. He attending a specialized camp there this summer and enjoyed himself, although he said "the food was awful" LOL. So that might be an option.

    Overall, we have really loved homeschooling. Academically, it has been a far superior experience to anything we could have gotten in the public school arena (and we don't have the funds for private). They both have friends, play sports, both play musical instruments, have sleep overs, etc. So that's good. I work part-time so they both help me with my bsuiness, learning about profit, loss, expenses, how to keep books--another great thing. They are both really savvy about stuff I didn't learn about til after college (life skills, money management, grocery shopping and cooking, maintaining the house and doing laundry, caring for the animals) and both love learning. I think the thing that's missing from my older's education right now is the chance to bounce ideas off other kids, interact on topics of interest to him in a group setting, and have a "posse" LOL.

    That's been our experience. I hope this post is helpful to you.
         

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