I have officially run out of ideas for dealing with my 3 year old when he gets out of hand
. He's insanely well mannered to others in public, and even to us in public for the most part. But when no one else is around, watch out, he's a stinker!! He's a tell it like it is kinda boy, and is beyond stubborn.
First we tried time outs: Now when he recieves his warning (1st they get a warning, then they get the TO), he goes directly to his time out spot, sits for his 3 minutes, does his little "I'm sorry, I won't do it again, etc, etc speech, and 9 times out of 10 he GOES RIGHT BACK AT IT!!!
Next was taking away something of "value": Let's just say I don't need to worry about him ever becoming materialistic. Even if the all important Blankie is taken away, he keeps doing whatever it is that he was doing.
Another is rewarding for good behavior (like an extra cookie at dessert, a little scoop of ice cream, etc.): Well now he's big enough that if he doesn't earn it, he waits until we're not paying attention and gets it himself.
I've tried just plain old ignoring him when he gets naughty (unless of course it's something dangerous). That hasn't really helped any, he just does something else to get attention.
The word 'NO' has little to no meaning to him, if he wants it, he WILL get it one way or the other, with or without your help. I try to use the word as little as possible thinking overuse will make him 'immune' to it. But in truth, he behaves the same if it's used or not.
The whole "girls are easier before the teens" is soo true, LOL