Originally Posted by jaydee
There's something a bit refreshing about this sort of statement.
Every time I listen to some saintly person who swears that they have never lost their temper with their kids, never yelled at them angrily or given them a sharp smack on the rear if it was called for I think it just makes the rest of us feel inadequate and guilty - or maybe we are the honest ones. Parenting is hard work and the little cherubs know too well how to push you to the brink
My father was ex military - he never once hit any of us (that was Mums job - though I don't recall ever getting smacked beyond the age of 5 so I think that a small tap when you are young is what it takes to produce a level teenager that understands boundaries. Amm my father ever had to do was yell really loudly and we all jumped to attention - yet he was the kindest most loving man, we just knew when enough was enough
Sometimes just the threat of a smack (that they know WILL be followed up) is enough to persuade most children that behaving is the better option.
A 3 year old climbing shelves etc is going to learn the hard way if he's not stopped - its a dangerous trick and shouldn't be allowed unless you enjoy spending time in the ER waiting room!!!
I just wanted to address this. Please note that I did not say that you should never smack your kids. I believe that is a parenting choice, and as long as you don't beat them, I have no problem with it. I have smacked my kids too. No parent is perfect, we all learn as we are going along.
To me, though, the op was looking for other options. I feel that if you are smacking your kids for every little misbehaviour (not saying anyone here is, using "you" as a general), then it will lose its effectiveness just like anything else.