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post #1 of 14 Old 12-30-2013, 07:11 AM Thread Starter
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Kid birthday party etiquette

So yesterday I had my sons birthday party. It was a movie party we saw Frozen.(not really a boy movie). So anyway a lot of the kids have siblings, I felt pressured to invite them too. One person said to me "Don't you hate when you invite 3 kids from one family and they only bring one present?". Well I'm not really sure, is that how its supposed to work? Are you supposed to invite everyone? I did because my husband and I have been invited to non-kid events and had to decline because we have no one to watch my son and I would hate for his friends not to come because their siblings were not able to go. Also are you supposed to feed all of the parents too? I bought a hero for them (and brought a lot of it home). Birthday party's cost a lot of money here but I guess one of my faults is trying to please everyone. What's your thought?
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post #2 of 14 Old 12-30-2013, 08:30 AM
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I'm old fashioned.

No siblings. Only "simple" food. Popcorn, chips, cake, e.g. snacks. Folks should "eat" before the party.
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post #3 of 14 Old 12-30-2013, 08:48 AM
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My kids are still young 8, 5 and 2. When I host a birthday I invite the whole family. I'm not sure what the ettique is. My son has been invited to a few parties and my husband has taken him alone. I think if the party is at a pizza place, movies or other type venue its probably for just the child invited and a parent unless the invitation states otherwise.
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post #4 of 14 Old 12-30-2013, 09:08 AM
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Something where you pay per person you invite by the child. If its at home or a park and more of a gathering then invite everyone if they'd like to stay. Never have I heard of anyone bringing more than one present.
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post #5 of 14 Old 01-01-2014, 12:04 AM
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Unless your kid is friend with the siblings? They wouldn't be invited.

And quit trying to please anyone but your kid. No need to go past that.

Life is stressful enough, and you might have more fun, or kid that is, if you just invited a best friend, and did something really nice with that kid.
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post #6 of 14 Old 01-01-2014, 02:06 AM
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I'm on the fence with this one. My boys are now 17 and 15 so we are out of the birthday party stage (they just want the $) but it was difficult when they were 8 and 10 because they had a lot if the same friends (neighborhood friends). There was a time where one was invited to a party and one was not, that was fun...not! I understand you have to have a cut-off and I was not mad or up set he wasn't invited its life.
I don't think you have to invite the whole family and I don't think you have to feed them.
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post #7 of 14 Old 01-01-2014, 02:36 AM
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My parents always included a little description of what would be served and the activities that would go on at our parties. For instance,

"Bring the whole family, we'll be serving hot dogs, cake and ice cream. The kids will play Pin the Tail on the Donkey, Simon, and Go Fish. We'll be near the tennis courts at XXX Park, or at ................. if the weather is bad."

Mostly we did stuff that wasn't a fortune, frequently if we were at the house, we'd just have a movie, hit a pinata and play a couple of games, 3 hours tops. They always invited an entire family, left it up to them how many showed up. No more than one present from each family, unless it was a birthday for twins.

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post #8 of 14 Old 01-01-2014, 05:45 PM
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Rather than have a party, my nephew gets to experience new things. From the look on his face in the pics, he loves it. It has started to catch on amongst his friends.
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post #9 of 14 Old 01-04-2014, 01:40 AM
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If siblings need to come normally the parent would ask if thats ok. If the children are young I expect a parent to stay, mainly as I would never leave my children with people I dont know. I find I always cook or provide way to much food so I always encourage the adults to eat lol. I dont mind if some siblings stay as it depends on the situation, the invited child may not be able to come if the siblings cant come if the parent needs to stay, so I play it by ear. I think as long as it's planned in advance and you know then its fine.
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post #10 of 14 Old 01-04-2014, 11:02 AM
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I don't think there is an actual "Etiquette", as there are too many variables. The location of the party for one, the activities taking place are another.

Really, it's up to the parent and the child... I don't think they should feel obligated either way.

The sensitivity of the internet baffles me.
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