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post #11 of 14 Old 01-04-2014, 03:35 PM
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You shouldn't feel obligated to invite the other siblings. If you want to, then that's fine. If not, then it's the family's responsibility to find something to do with the others. If you do invite them, then I would think that you're expected to feed them like the other kids. Doesn't seem right to say that Jimmy's friend Tommy gets a hot dog, but his brother Joey doesn't. I don't see an issue with a family only bringing one present for the birthday kid either. That said, I don't have a kid and haven't been birthday party aged in awhile. It IS your kid's party, though, so do what makes your family happy!
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post #12 of 14 Old 01-07-2014, 04:54 AM
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Depends on the age of the kids. If the birthday boy/girl is young enough that parents come to the party, then siblings come too. But keep it simple with the food and activities. One present per family unit invited.

If the kid having the birthday is old enough that parents aren't staying at the party, no siblings invited unless they are also a friend.

And parties where paid entertainment is part, like movies at the cinema, bowling etc, only invite a very limited number of kids, no parents or siblings, its too expensive!
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post #13 of 14 Old 01-24-2014, 03:57 PM
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Parties in my area tend to be big and DD is only 18 months so take my input with that in mind. :)
First, I would not bat an eye at one family bringing one gift. For DD's first b-day we invited entire families and she received one gift per family, even if there were multiple children in the family.
For as long as DD is young enough that parents NEED to stay at the party, I would feed them. Simple snacks is sufficient.
Once DD gets old enough to really choose who attends her party, the invitations will be addressed only to the invited child. It is a great idea to note on the invite what the child will be doing so the parents are clued in to the fact that activities are planned for the invited guests only.
Reality is that some people don't know that only those to whom the invited is addressed are invited (we see this ALL the time at weddings!), so I'm hopeful I'll be able to roll with it if siblings show up. And, hey, if the sibling is older then I'll enlist their help ;)...which is exactly what I did at DD's first b-day!
I think you are right to want your guests to be happy! But do so within the limits of what you can manage. Beyond that it is as much their responsibility to be a good guest :)
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post #14 of 14 Old 01-24-2014, 05:14 PM
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Originally Posted by VickiRose View Post

And parties where paid entertainment is part, like movies at the cinema, bowling etc, only invite a very limited number of kids, no parents or siblings, its too expensive!
Another way to handle paid entertainment like bowling and movies is to state in the invitation the cost of the event if any parents or siblings would like to join (if there is room) and to let you know so you can figure out numbers.

I know my sister is dating a guy who has a son a year younger than my niece. So the little guy gets invited to Christmas parties or birthday parties that my niece is going to but my sister and her boyfriend pay for the little guys presents or fee to be included. This way since my sister and bf are there to watch my niece the little guy doesn't get left out at home.
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