Need some support
There's a long and somewhat painful story attached to this whole thing, but this is the basics.
June 28, 2003, I got married.
February 28, 2004, I gave birth to my son.
April 27, 2007, I got divorced.
My ex-husband was mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive toward me. I finally said "enough is enough" and got out. Because he is very persuasive and because I was in no place (financially or emotionally) to care for my son, I gave him full custody of my son. I'm not proud of my decision and I have regretted it every day since, but until the last year or two, I was too transient to provide the kind of care and life my son deserved. I was also to pay $300 per month in child support to my ex-husband, and I was allowed to see my son on my days off.
That worked fine while I lived 15-20 miles from where my ex lived. Then I moved about 250 miles away back to my home town to go back to school. That was five years ago. In that five years, I have seen my son for less than thirty days total per year (usually 3-5 days, sometimes as many as seven days, for spring break, summer, Thanksgiving and Christmas...usually the holidays because my ex always works). Every time we have asked my ex to let my son stay longer with us, he says "He'll miss me too much."
You may notice that I said "WE asked." My ex won't answer the phone when I call and won't return my voicemails. I stopped even trying to call a couple of years ago because I got so frustrated with it. I would call and leave a message asking him to have my son call me, and it would never happen. Or, I would call, my ex would answer the phone, my son would be at his grandparents' house, I'd ask my ex to have my son call me, and it never happened. I tried calling his parents once right after we got divorced and my ex called me screaming at me to never call his parents again and to delete their number from my phone. So, my parents call my ex and set up times to pick up my son. It's always at my ex-husband's convenience and more often than not, my parents have to drive the five hours down to pick up and drop off my son because my ex will rarely meet them halfway and I usually have to work. My son stays at my parents' house while he is visiting, which was fine when I was living in half of a four-car garage, but now that I live in an actual house with a man who adores my son, I still am "not allowed" to have him stay with me, per my parents (my ex, knowing full-well how my parents felt about me living with my boyfriend, said that it was okay with him if my son stayed with me as long as it was okay with my parents). My parents have even gone so far as to, without my knowledge, give my ex-husband gas money to meet them halfway. My sister has also helped by picking up my son from my ex and then meeting my parents closer to where we live (she lives about halfway between us).
A few months ago, my ex-husband emailed me threatening to take me to court for child support. I have not been financially able to pay child support since I moved back home. Heck, I was barely able to pay it when I lived closer to him. I never went and got my child support modified because, accord to the state calculating website, I was supposed to be paying $500 per month based on how much parenting time I got, which I really couldn't do. He also flipped out on me because my father took my son to meet my brother last summer (also the last time I saw my son). My brother, at the time, was recently released from prison and is a convicted sex offender. I had NO knowledge of my father taking my son to meet my brother until WELL after the fact. My father still doesn't see anything wrong with what he did (my brother would NEVER dream of hurting my son, but it was wrong of my father to put him in that position). My ex informed me that my son would no longer be allowed to visit me in my home town and that I would have to drive two hours to my sister's house to see him. My parents went to see my son on Easter Sunday, but I had to work.
Yesterday, I got a text from my ex-husband (first text I have received from him in five years...he got my number from my mother) stating that I was going to be served papers from the court. He also asked for my address. My boyfriend flipped out. He did not want my ex knowing where we live (we live in my boyfriend's mom's house) and potentially coming up here to cause problems. The texts I received from my ex were very aggressive and demeaning (he enjoys acting superior and taunting me). I was civil in my responses. I received a call from the processing officer today while I was taking a shower getting ready for work. Not five minutes after the processing officer called and left a message, my ex texted me and ordered me to answer the phone because the processing officer was calling me. The processing officer then called me again two minutes later.
I am getting off work right now, so I will finish this tomorrow.
Do not tell me I can't...because I will show
you that I can.