I've just started seeing a guy that has 3 children from a previous marriage. (separated over 6 years ago) But I'm finding it hard adjusting to this new role.
I feel perhaps it'd have been easier if I wasn't his first partner after his wife but anyway. I feel as if I'm a fish out of water and am worried about treading on any toes.
The kids are great and seem to like me although I've only meet them twice so far. (He gets them once a week). I didn't want to meet them until he felt completely 100% sure on our relationship etc.
Today the pair of them had coffee and a chat about allowing the kids to work their horses a couple of days a week rather than just the one day he gets to see them. Which is great and I'm really pleased about both him and the kids as I know how much they love spending time with their father.
It came up in the conversation that she had asked the children if I was younger and prettier than her. Now is it just me or is this completely inappropriate? I just feel so awkward about this whole thing. I'm so nervous the mother is going to make it into a competition or something and I don't what that.
I'm not trying to take the role of their mother or anything and am worried just by being with him that I could possibly ruin the chances of the children's parents getting along.
Any advice would be appreciated. I feel like a dork putting all this on here but not really sure what I can do or how to act in this situation.