The Bf, roommate and I have ended up in a situation which we aren't entirely sure how to handle, and several friends have recommended calling social services.
We have lived around children before, from newborns up to 7 years old. Never had any complaints, sure we could hear them time to time, but that was expected with the kids.
We moved this summer and the upstairs neighbors have a now 3 year old. When we moved we were told they were no complaints about them before, they had been here a few years. But then, the last tenants were kicked out, so I doubt they were complaining about others.
We have been here over 4 months now and have counted maybe 20 days where we have NOT been woken up by a crying child, and he has still screamed his head off at one point during those days.
And we get it, kids cry. But every morning? And we can hear the parents walking around, they don't go to him when he cries. So we figured, at first, he is in a phase and they are letting him cry himself out. But for 4 months?
And we can hear what he says now, he screams "I have to go potty" or for his mommy.
We have timed him cry for over an hour. And he'll do this several times throughout the day.
I tried to give them benefit of the doubt, and keep the guys from saying anything rude, but now I've hit my last straw as well. I came home from work this morning because of the flu and the kid has now been screaming like crazy off and on for the past 2 hours. I just want to sleep.
The place is rented through an agency, and I am going to be emailing them this week.
But we still have a few months in our lease and we've already had issues with them. Petty things like repeatedly flushing the toilet if we shower more than 5 minutes. Joys of shared water systems. So I am concerned on how they will take a noise complaint about their child.
But then we have others telling us we should call social services because it is not right for a child to be crying and screaming that much. But who are to decide if this is "normal" for a child or not? The 3 of us have no experience with raising kids, were all in our early 20's. Which may add to the frustration. Two of us are full time, working students. Sleep is limited as is and the roommate has taken to sleeping at the school.
So, is it "normal" for a 3 year old to cry so much?
Have we just been lucky and every other child our neighbors had were really quiet?
Is there a tactful way to approach the parents? Or just avoid that?
Is it fair to put a noise complaint in about a child? That was there before you moved in? It just seems so silly to me. Like moving to the country and complaining about the smell.
If there is an underlying cause for the crying, that's fine, but shouldn't that be explained to potential tenants?
We do plan on moving in January when the lease is up, so its only a few months of putting up with it.
But any insight, words of advice, suggestions, whatever, I'd appreciate