If I had ever acted that way, my trainer and my mother would have hung me upside down from my ankles until all the blood rushed to my head and took turns beating me with a dressage whip until my feet fell off.
That is NOT how you train any horse, let alone a sensitive creature such as a gaming horse. Why did the person hosting this "clinic" not step in?
I witnessed an episode like this (temper tantrum, teenage girl taking her frustration out on the horse) while waiting on the rail with two students. I turned to them, and said, probably unnecessarily, because they were great kids, "If either of you ever pulled a stunt like that you would not be showing for a LONG time." One girl looked at me in shock and said "OMG! We wouldn't even have to worry about YOU, our parents would take the horses away!"
I did have a student lose her temper in the ring and create a little bit of a scene. I had some sympathy for her because she was at a difficult point in training a difficult horse, but the behavior was unacceptable. I gave her a few minutes to cool down before walking back to the trailer and tell her we were going home, and found that it was too late - her Mom was already packing up and loading after giving her an ear blistering. There really wasn't anything left for me to say or do, except tell her we'd talk about it and work through it at home.
Soooooooo....being a coach or a trainer who won't tolerate abuse or bad behavior is one thing, but having PARENTS that set that expectation first makes it a lot easier.
Even being 18, I wouldn't dare blame my horse for doing something I didn't like. 99.9% of the time, it was and will always be my fault. I am not a perfect rider by any means. The day we think we become that should be the day we give up our love of horses.
When running the aforementioned riding school I had eight boys riding one afternoon a week. These lads were in a school for 'problem' children and were basically allowed to run wild and resented anything else.
One hot afternoon they were brushing the ponies when one pony swished its tail at a fly catching the lad in the face. Immediately the boy stood back and kicked the pony hard in the belly.
I hollered at him and he jumped back standing near the ponies head.
As I read him the riot act so the pony looked at me and then looked down. Next thing was pony stood on the lad's foot and not only put as much weight on it he also twisted around.
That lad sure hollered and I was doubled over with laughter. He didn't like that my reaction was to not only say "You earned that!" but to call him a wuss for making so much fuss.
There are plenty of good kids out there that do care for their animals come hell or high water. No one but parents can be blamed for the bad ones behaviour.
I do not care whose child it is, I will correct if it is ill mannered around me and if a parent objects then will tell them that if they are not prepared to teach their child manners then someone else has to. I always say this in a very loud voice so all can hear and it works.
Even though this is an old thread, I definitely need to add in, since I showed 4H for a few years and learned a lot..
Perhaps the most interesting thing I saw in my years was a girl, probably 17, screaming at her mother to hurry up and give her the hunt coat she was putting a number on. She was holding up the ring since she wasn't ready, and the poor mother just listened to her kid scream and ran to give her the coat. As she got in the ring, that poor horses mouth was ripped on in her frustration. Ugh.
The worst thing I have ever seen was a horse that was abused. Severely. Stories spread quick about this kid who ran gymkhana with his horse, and that horse went through Hell. That horse would be stalled and beat with a board. Then a huge bit would be thrown in the mouth, and spurs stabbed in his sides, to the point he would be bleeding. At the shows, that horse would jump over 4ft in the air in utter FEAR of this kid. Imagine Hildalgo, the horse from that movie. That's what the horse looked like, and it was a gorgeous horse. Never have I seen a horse that scared. What pissed me off the most was that trainer would sit there and yell, "kick harder" "push" and then blame the horse for getting a bad time. I felt like ripping him off that horse, and riding it with no spurs and a soft bit to prove a horse can run without abuse. I hate humans sometimes.
Both times those parents should have taken responsibility. The one time I got really rough on my horse, my stepdad walked in the trail ring, grabbed my horse's reins and dragged me out. Embarrassing? Definitely. But I learned.
I have seen this a lot lately too. My son did some local horse shows and the first thing I taught him was to love his pony and if something didn't go right there was always another show to try again. Also good sportsmanship is always followed, if I ever saw him act that way at all I would have made him go apologize over the PA for his behavior. He doesn't ride anymore but he still adores his pony and still follows good sportsmanship with his kart racing.